Welcome to the Well-Being Club!

Well-being is a rather hot topic at the moment. I wonder how are you doing with your own self-care?

Take a moment to consider, how do you want to BE?

You know what it is like when you are so busy doing that you forget what it is to be. 

What if you were to take the time to write down in a journal how you want to be in the world in terms of what emotions you want to experience regularly, who you want to feel connected to and what has the most meaning in your life.

Would you change what you focus on?

My challenge to you is to take some time today to just sit with this idea. Write down your thoughts, feelings and dreams or vision.

How close are you to being the way you want to be?

What is stopping you?

Write this down too. Next time I will share some thoughts with you about how to make some changes if that is what you want to do.

If you would also like to read my blog on resilience please click here

 

 

 

How are limiting beliefs created?

People often ask me “how  are limiting beliefs are created?” This can be the first step in the realisation that the thinking patterns that have been holding you backcan be understood and changed. By asking the question the door is open to the possibility of transformation.

From a research perspective it is fair to say our evidence is anecdotal and comes from observation. Setting up a research model is problematic from both a practical and ethical position.

Leaving that aside when I share my belief about the formation of beliefs most people can relate.

Limiting beliefs, Empowering beliefs and neutral beliefs are all formed by the same processes and mechanisms. There are two primary processesinvolved and both have an external source.

I am sure you will not be surprised that the majority of our core belief systemis in place from a very early age and although we might adjust our beliefs, the basic structure is very resilient and resistant to change.

Both of the primary processes are in play simultaneously so let us consider them each in turn. Firstly, beliefs can be created by constant repetitionin the form of feedback and messages we receive especially those we get from our primary care givers such as parents. As children we assume our parents are all knowingand if they give us messages about our capabilities, our self-worth and about how the world works we are likely to accept these messages.

For instance, if a parent is constantly telling a child they are clumsy there will be an internalising of this message. Even if the child appears to make extra effort to be careful and even becomes known for that quality as an adult, the message has still been internalised. The very act of being extra careful is driven by a fearof people discovering how clumsy our example person is. Alternatively, the same message may result in a person who provides countless examples that the statement about them being clumsy is true.

So, whether we try to be the opposite or we directly accept the role we are still internalising the beliefabout being clumsy.

This same processwould also be responsible for a person taking on a positive beliefsuch as being clever or creative. All of this, with both Limiting and Empowering beliefs happens outside our conscious awareness. We take in the thinking pattern that creates the belief by osmosis and with little conscious processing.

Perhaps an even more fascinating aspect of this process is what happens when a child takes on a belief based on the constant repetition of what is not said. This can often happen where there are siblings. If one child is constantly praised for a particular quality such as creativity but this quality is never attributed to the child’s sister an unwitting message is being delivered. Child logicof the sister is such that the child may take on a belief that she is not creative because she is never told that she is. The parents in this case may not think that at all and were unaware of the unconscious response of their child.

The second of the processes responsible for the creating of beliefs is linked to high emotional loadand could be described as trauma. However, this may be misleading as we do get Empowering beliefsthis way too.

Let me expand, a belief or a series of beliefs can arise from one experience where the emotional intensity is particularly high. The emotions could be anything from fear, loss, anger through to joy or feelings of achievement. The key is high intensity chained to high meaning.

In terms of Limiting beliefs, I have worked with many clients who had a “shame”or “humiliation”experience that converted into feelings of low self-worthand confidence. I have also spoken with other people who have a key moment of inspirationbased on an experience in early childhoodthat created a positive drive and a resilient mind-set.

On Wednesday, 9thMay our NLP Practice groupwill explore this topic further. Do email me if you would like to join us. melody@gwinzlp.com

 

What are Limiting Beliefs and can they be changed?

Have you ever noticed how you hold yourself back from certain things? Sometimes these will be tasks or activities you know logically that you are capable of and yet there is another part of you that is convinced you will never succeed.

Perhaps even more challenging are those personal things you think about yourself as a person that on one level you know they are not true and yet emotionally you hold a conviction that they are fact.

The above are just two examples of limiting beliefs. Often we do not label them as beliefs because we think they are “concrete facts”.

We will defend these limitations, arguing that we have evidence to support these “truths”. On a more positive level we will do the same thing about empowering beliefs we hold about ourselves, others and the world.

Usually it is far easier to spot when someone else is clinging to a limiting belief. We will hear them make a statement about themselves or their abilities that we, the observer, would challenge. We are often able to present counter evidenceand yet the other person is unable to accept even the most well intentioned, gentle and kind feedback.

So, if you want to identify some of your own limiting beliefs, stop for a moment and consider, where in your life have others tried to offer you counter evidence about self-stated truths about you?

There are other ways to track down your limiting beliefs and sometimes we need the help of a skilled professional.

If you want to understand a little bit more about how limiting beliefs are created download my free audio click here.

This audio is a two hour segment from a workshop I ran with 60 people research “Does NLP improve Self-Esteem?” This was part of my research dissertation for my Masters Degreein Applied Positive Psychology and you will be pleased to know the evidence was “yes it does”.

You will also be able to join in with an exercise from NLP that is designed to help you shift that limiting belief and swap it for an Empowering Self Belief that will allow you to shine.

If you are ready to transform your life it might be time to enrol on our NLP PractitionerProgramme and start your own journey of change. Our programme is spread over 4 modules each of 4 days giving you time consolidate both your learning and your transformation.

If you are still not quite sure you can join us for a taster day for just £19.95. This fee covers the costs and is deducted from your invoice when you sign up for either the NLP Diploma or the full NLP Practitioner Training.

Our next one is on 21stJune and there is an alternate date of 21stAugust. Do join us and start making those important changes today!

 

I am also available for individual sessionsusing NLP, Hypnotherapy, Core Transformations, the Wholeness Process, Positive Psychologyand Transactional Analysis.

Contact me direct for more details.

 

 

 

 

 

How is Hypnotherapy different from Stage Hypnosis

I am often asked this question particularly by people who are concerned about the safety of Hypnotherapy. The simple answer is they are like chalk and cheese.

Hypnotherapy is primarily concerned with helping people and Professional Hypnotherapists will have Accredited qualifications, be members of professional bodies and will be committed to ethical practice. Qualified Hypnotherapists use hypnosis to help people with issues ranging from smoking cessation, weight loss, anxiety, stress and pain control, through to full medical hypnosis for patients who are allergic to anaesthesia. The client’s well-fare and well-being are the highest priority.

Stage hypnosis is primarily a show where the person conducting the event is more interested in entertaining the public than the welfare of the people invited on stage. A careful selection process is used to ensure that only people who will provide this entertainment get as far as the stage and many of the factors have nothing to do with hypnosis. For instance, the people selected are usually extroverts who enjoy being the centre of attention and who will not be concerned if they make a fool of themselves.

Sadly, stage hypnosis sometimes brings Hypnotherapy into disrepute by association and promotes myths about hypnosis. If you are considering Hypnotherapy for yourself or a family member it is okay to ask your Hypnotherapist about your concerns. Any well trained Hypnotherapist will be happy to answer your questions and reassure you.

If you are looking for Hypnotherapy Training as a new career make sure you find a training provider who offers Accredited Training plus ongoing support, mentoring and supervision. This is key to ensure that you develop your own good practice.

If you are looking for Hypnotherapy Training as a new career make sure you find a training provider who offers Accredited Training plus ongoing support, mentoring and supervision. This is key to ensure that you develop your own good practice.

If you are interested in finding out more about my training programmes in Hypnotherapy click here for details, including my next module in Hypnotherapy starting on 15th April. We are Accredited with both General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and American Board of Hypnotherapy.

Recognised by ABH

 

 

Calibrating vulnerability in clients or students

As an NLP Trainer or NLP Practitioner, our ability to recognise vulnerability in our students or clients is a key skill set. So exactly how do you do it while running courses such as NLP Practitioner? This is just as important for the NLP Practitioner, Hypnotherapist and Therapist when working one to one with clients.

One place to start is with a conscious decision to start calibrating a baseline for each student or client. We teach calibration skills on our entry level NLP Training and this is started on the free one day training workshop. This calibration includes processing visual, auditory and kinaesthetic signals from the client.

With larger groups this can be challenging just in terms of sheer numbers. Perhaps a more manageable approach would be to calibrate baselines for the group. As a student moves into a state of vulnerability there will be a ripple effect particularly in those seated nearby.

The baseline is critical because changes in state vary vastly both on the individual level and in terms of group processes. Where one person withdraws and internalises, another may become loud, while yet another response may be to become rigidly controlled. When calibrating the group, you are becoming sensitive to the waves and flow of what becomes a collective consciousness that may match the individual signs or not.

You might recognise that a student is becoming vulnerable by signs of rapport breakdown and separation from others. Or conversely you may see an increased rapport as group members nearby experience unconscious empathy that can be seen as physiological shifts.

The examples above are just that, examples. As an NLP Trainer or NLP Practitioner, remember to stay connected to the concept of NLP as the study of subjective behaviour.

Where should an NLP Practitioner put the boundaries in practice?

One of the things I love about teaching NLP is the enthusiasm I see in my students. They are often excited about how they can make a difference and help others. This is wonderful to see and the energy is very positive.

That said, I also take great care to caution my graduate NLP Practitioners to be careful about drawing their boundaries and making smart choices about who they work with.

Students practicing in our beautiful grounds. Hypnotising hypnotists
Students practicing in our beautiful grounds. Hypnotising hypnotists

What do I mean by that?

People seek out NLP Practitioners for many reasons and sometimes there are warning bells that new Practitioners need to take care to heed. Firstly, in terms of scope. While NLP is a very powerful tool and can help most people, some things take more experience than others to deal with.

For example, if a person is on medication for depression or any other mental health issue they really need to be working with an experienced NLP Practitioner who also has therapeutic training. To be clear, NLP Practitioner certification is not enough on its own for someone to be a therapist.

NLP Practitioner does give you the tools to work with people who want to improve their confidence, self-esteem, well-being etc. It is a great tool to use in a coaching practice or in the workplace generally.

It is a great foundation for therapy and can certainly lead to working with therapeutic populations.

So what to do if you are an NLP Practitioner wanting to work as a therapist?

Here are some suggestions:

  1. Make sure you have a supervisor, usually your NLP Trainer or NLP Master Trainer can provide this. Having a supervisor is basic good professional practice. I offer my own students the chance to attend a regular supervision group and they can book individual sessions with me either in person or via skype.
  2. Keep a reflective learning log to continue learning from your own experiences.
  3. Attend regular further training beyond NLP Master Practitioner and Hypnotherapy. Attend conferences and specialist workshops in fields you are interested in. I still do this myself, for instance this month I’m attending a workshop with Connie Rae Andreas.
  4. Attend regular practice groups and peer supervision/practice groups. Remember you can always set one up if there is nothing based near you.
  5. Be clear about your own experience and expertise. What do you feel comfortable handling? Reality check yourself, specifically what tools and knowledge do you have? Put the boundaries of the type of client you are qualified to work with in your advertising.
  6. If you are working with a client and you are not sure what to do, seek supervision and/or refer the client to a more experienced practitioner.

Understanding Limiting Beliefs and how they hold you back from your dreams

Take the leap!
Take the leap!

Are you wanting to make changes in your life and yet somehow you don’t have the will or the motivation to take the first step?

 

 

Perhaps you don’t believe you have what it takes or think others would not be interested in you. Maybe you lack confidence or self-esteem.

If any of the above sounds familiar the chances are you have some kind of limiting belief. The great news for you is simple….. you can change, you just need to know how.

So what do you need to do?

The first step is self-awareness. Recognise what you are believing about yourself, your capabilities and others that are holding you back and then educate yourself in how to change. Beyond that take the leap into helping yourself by reaching out for the support you need.

Let’s start with some definitions.

In simple terms, a limiting belief is anything you believe about yourself or the world that holds you back from having the kind of life you really dream of.

What makes identifying these limitations so challenging is the way we trick ourselves into believing our beliefs are concrete facts.

To give you an example, if a person believes they are unlovable they will often be able to provide countless examples and evidence to support this theory. We are experts at defending our limiting beliefs whether they are about our true nature, our abilities or about the world in general.

We do this for a very important reason.

We developed each of our limiting beliefs for a very important reason in our early life and that reason was survival. At the time it was the best option we had available to us that would allow us to get by and yet often in adulthood these beliefs no longer serve us so we hand on to them.

NLP provides some really great tools to help you change and transform your limitations allow you to step into your natural brilliance.

If you are ready to transform your life and become the best version of you take the leap today!

Here are a few options to get you started in your own transformation:

  1. Download our free audio, taken from a workshop helping people improve self-esteem using NLP.
  2. If you live in the East Sussex/West Kent area join us for our NLP Practice group on Thursday where we will be exploring “Busting Limiting Beliefs”
  3. Join us for a free one day introduction to NLP where you will experience the “Change Belief” technique.
  4. Order my new book, “Becoming Happy” by Melody Cheal from Amazon today!

For details on any of the above see our main website

www.gwiznlp.com

or contact Melody 01892 309 205 or email melody@gwiznlp.com

Are you ready for the next step in your NLP Journey? Find out more about NLP Master Practitioner

Are you ready for the next step in your NLP Journey?

I wonder if you have begun
asking yourself important questions yet:

Who am I?
What is my life purpose?
What is the nature of reality?

when opportunity knocks

In our NLP Master Practitioner we balance taking your NLP skills to the next level with exploring some of the “big questions”.

You will have the opportunity to experience a leap forward in your own Self-awareness leading to greater happiness and fulfilment in your life.

After attending this course our graduates report a greater sense of well-being and confidence. They feel able to tackle life’s challenges more easily and are ready to step into living the life they have always dreamed of.

What else will you gain?

Those that have attended NLP courses with us have reported major paradigm shifts in their life; increasing self-confidence and self-esteem, zest for life, transforming limiting beliefs to empowering beliefs and helping to communicate with others more effectively.
As well as these immeasurable benefits you will gain:

An MP3 set of the GWiz Master Practitioner course.

Three certificates: Two from GWiz/ PSiNLP and one from the ANLP (Association of NLP).

A gift of three months full Professional Membership with the ANLP (Association of NLP), worth over £130.

Support after the course…through:

  • Our monthly NLP Practice Group
  • The opportunity to assist on future workshops to deepen your knowledge
  • Massively reduced personal coaching rates (six sessions per course)
  • Supervision support to help with your ongoing professional development
  • Free business advice and general ad hoc email support

You will be eligible of our NLP Trainer’s Training programme

Jo Coulson started her NLP journey with us several years ago. She has now graduated as an NLP Trainer and is working successfully as a trainer and coach.
Jo Coulson started her NLP journey with us several years ago. She has now graduated as an NLP Trainer and is working successfully as a trainer and coach.

Topics covered on our NLP Master Practitioner include:
• What is reality? Decoding the “big dream”
• Personal Identity: Who is “I”? Who is “me”?
• Finding your life purpose
• Exploring the mind/body connection
• Time and Paradox. What is really going on?

You will deepen your NLP knowledge as learning Sleight of Mouth patterns, re-imprinting, working with values maps, conversational change and much more.
If you have been thinking about doing this workshop for a while this year may be the time to jump in particularly if you want to train in beautiful surroundings overlooking beautiful Ashdown Forest, East Sussex.
If you have already completed your NLP Master Practitioner with another provider you can take our NLP Master Practitioner with a 50% reduction.
For GWiz graduates wishing to repeat Master Practitioner there is a 60% reduction.

What are the dates?
The course is spread over three months to give you time to integrate experiences, the modules are:
Module one: 7th to 10th April 2016
Module two: 12th to 15th May 2016
Module three: 9th to 12th June 2016

Tell me more about signing up..

We have an early bird price for those of you who sign up before the end of this week of just £2800, saving you £700!

For the first 6 people who take up this offer there will be a further saving of £400! That’s a total of £1100 saved for the first 6 people!

How do I sign up?

Contact Melody via email melody@gwiznlp.com or call (44) 1892 309 205

Free One Day Introduction to NLP

What would happen if you broke free from your limitations?
What if you could be who you really want to be…

Beyond limitation!

Brilliance
Are you looking for something new?
Are you looking to increase your self-confidence?
Would you like to learn a new skill?
Are you curious about NLP? Would you like to know more?

How good would it be if you could attend a

free one day taster event?

If you answered “yes” join us on our free one day workshop, NLP101

This workshop provides you with the opportunity to find out more about NLP and what it has to offer. You will also get a chance to meet NLP Master Trainer, Melody Cheal and her team so that you can be confident you have found the right fit for you.

By applying the learning from our NLP 101 course you will be able to:

  • Use your communication skills more effectively by developing your ability to read people.
  • Describe how to ‘click’ with others and build stronger rapport more quickly.
  • Present a more confident, resilient self-image.
  • Prepare yourself by managing your state more easily
  • Take control of your emotional reactions to people/things/actions/events.
  • Overcome self-limiting beliefs.

Learn some NLP foundation skills and gain

25% of the credits needed for our NLP Diploma qualification.

How do I book a place?

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Email melody@gwiznlp.com for a booking form

and then choose one of the dates below:

28th January, 26th February, 18th March or 19th April
Crowborough, East Sussex

Open to all who are new to NLP and curious to discover more…
To book a place Contact Us

melody@gwiznlp.com
01892 309205
www.gwiznlp.com

Why complete NLP Practitioner with GWiz NLP?

If you are thinking about training in NLP, I am guessing that you are considering carefully as this is a big investment both in terms of your time and financially. To help you make this decision I want to share with you some reasons why GWiz NLP is a good choice.

 

  1. Attend the first two days completely free of charge. We offer this to give you a chance to “try before you buy”. As our programme is modular you will have the opportunity to reflect on your experience before signing up.
  2. Our approach is Humanistic, we think that people and their welfare are important. We train our students with a person centred attitude.
  3. Our approach is ethical. This is so important to us that we expect our graduates to sign an ethics agreement.
  4. Our courses are led by Melody and Joe Cheal. Both are NLP Master Trainers with over twenty years of experience. They both hold degrees and Master’s degrees in psychology bring a breadth to their knowledge that may be missing from other trainings.
  5. Our courses are all accredited with ANLP, the only independent professional body in the world. This means our materials have been peer reviewed for quality and we are recognised for our professionalism. See www.anlp.org.
  6. As a graduate of GWiz NLP you will receive a complementary membership of ANLP.
  7. On graduation you will receive three internationally recognised certificates: Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner; Neuro Linguistic Psychology Practitioner; ANLP Practitioner.
  8. On completion of the course you will receive as much ongoing support as you need in the form of personal coaching/therapy sessions, mentoring, supervision and support.
  9. You will also be able to join our Practice Group either face to face or via online media.
  10. We have our own purpose built training suite set in the outstanding beauty of Ashdown Forest, East Sussex. The views are stunning and the atmosphere supports you in reaching your goals.
  11. Support to develop your NLP career further right up to Master Trainer status.
  12. To find out about why Melody and Joe Cheal are the trainers for you check out the article “Meet the Trainer’s” http://www.gwiznlp.com/articles/

 What is the free stuff?

  • Sign up for the first two days of NLP Practitioner for free so you can “try before you buy”.
  • When you sign up for our NLP Practitioner course you will receive an MP3 audio with over 20 hours of material absolutely free!

 

 For dates and how to sign up scroll down or read some testimonials from a few of our students first.

Here are some comments from some of our students

“Melody has been my trainer for NLP Practitioner, Master Practitioner, ILM L7 Coaching, TA for Trainers/Coaches, as well as numerous Practice Groups and Coaching Supervision Sessions. She has also acted as Personal and Professional Coach through some of the most challenging times of my life and career.”

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“After extensive research into different NLP trainers and attended many sample training sessions. I choose to complete my NLP Diploma with Melody and what a great training it is! I have been so impressed with Melody and Gwiz that I have continued my NLP learning and I am now a GWiz Master Practitioner thanks to the dedicated support of an amazing trainer.”

“Melody and her partner Joe Cheal at GWiz Parternship are extremely experienced Master Trainers of NLP and together they bring a unique angle to their training style. The quality that I most admire in them is their integrity. You are in safe hands with Melody and Joe. The other quality is their vast knowledge of the topics they teach. I couldn’t recommend a better trainer for NLP. Can I just add that there is never a bored moment during their training?”

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“If you have ever said to yourself, ‘There has to be more to life than this’ and or are seeking new meaning to your life, or maybe your journey has reached a cross roads or even a roundabout and you’d like to make sense of it, Melody will support you on that journey in any direction that suits you. Melody is a highly intelligent, perceptive, supportive, gifted lady. One of Melody’s many gifts is her naturally ability to identify the root cause of a person’s discomfort, unease, troubles, or issue almost immediately allowing the process of awareness to come gently and effortlessly to the individual in a way that is perfect for them. I have the pleasure of taking my journey through personal development and personal awareness with both Joe and Melody through NLP Practitioner, NLP Master Practitioner and solely with Melody through Transactional Analysis and Hypnotherapy and am going back for more. Whilst training a group, with her great linguistic skills, Melody connects with each and every one of us on an individual level as if you are the only person in the room with her. Melody’s passion for helping others fulfil their potential is evident in everything she does. Melody has high standards and lives the ethics and values she believes in. The GWiz learning environment is warm, safe, comfortable, and relaxing allowing all learning to be absorbed, tried and tested in a supportive timely way.”

“Melody is a gift to the world of personal development and awareness, if you’re thinking about it, I recommend Melody to you wholeheartedly, Melody will help you change your life”

“I have trained with Melody and Joe at GWiz for both my NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner qualification. I have found their training invaluable and the training has given me a huge amount professionally and personally. I would not hesitate to recommend them to anybody looking for training, coaching or NLP. Highly recommended!!”

 And a few shorter testimonials

“I had a great week and look forward eagerly to working with you both again.”

“It was a fantastic week, thank you both for making it such fun to learn and explore new things. I was on a real high last night and to add to it, did a SWISH technique on a client!!!”

“Still assimilating the most amazing 16 days of my life and really excited about where the journey will take me.”

“The programme has created a real shift in me, and I’m finding it so exciting being able to use my learning to help others –

I’m having some real ‘Jonathan Livingston Seagull’ moments!”

“I’m noticing so much now as I’m speaking to others – their language patterns, sensory information.”

“I’ve also reached new levels of self-awareness that I never felt possible. I’m really looking forward to refining my new skills and finding exciting new applications for them.”

“Many thanks for a wonderful experience. It’s been a brilliant journey for me – definitely a road worth travelling.”

What are the dates and details?

The full programme is 16 days including evaluation and certification. We spread the modules to allow you time to assimilate learning in manageable chunks while still providing you with transformational experiences.

You have two opportunities to attend “try before you buy sessions” called NLP 101.

The dates are: 18th to 19th August or 22nd to 23rd September 2015.

 To complete NLP Practitioner this time around you will also attend:

  •  NLP Diploma completion module (NLP101 is part of the Diploma) 24th to 25th September 2015
  •  Module two:          31st October to 3rd November 2015
  • Module three:        30th January to 2nd February 2016
  •  Module four:          12th to 15th March 2016

 How do I sign up?

 Contact Melody direct on 01892 309205 or email melody@gwiznlp.com