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How are limiting beliefs created?

People often ask me “how  are limiting beliefs are created?” This can be the first step in the realisation that the thinking patterns that have been holding you backcan be understood and changed. By asking the question the door is open to the possibility of transformation.

From a research perspective it is fair to say our evidence is anecdotal and comes from observation. Setting up a research model is problematic from both a practical and ethical position.

Leaving that aside when I share my belief about the formation of beliefs most people can relate.

Limiting beliefs, Empowering beliefs and neutral beliefs are all formed by the same processes and mechanisms. There are two primary processesinvolved and both have an external source.

I am sure you will not be surprised that the majority of our core belief systemis in place from a very early age and although we might adjust our beliefs, the basic structure is very resilient and resistant to change.

Both of the primary processes are in play simultaneously so let us consider them each in turn. Firstly, beliefs can be created by constant repetitionin the form of feedback and messages we receive especially those we get from our primary care givers such as parents. As children we assume our parents are all knowingand if they give us messages about our capabilities, our self-worth and about how the world works we are likely to accept these messages.

For instance, if a parent is constantly telling a child they are clumsy there will be an internalising of this message. Even if the child appears to make extra effort to be careful and even becomes known for that quality as an adult, the message has still been internalised. The very act of being extra careful is driven by a fearof people discovering how clumsy our example person is. Alternatively, the same message may result in a person who provides countless examples that the statement about them being clumsy is true.

So, whether we try to be the opposite or we directly accept the role we are still internalising the beliefabout being clumsy.

This same processwould also be responsible for a person taking on a positive beliefsuch as being clever or creative. All of this, with both Limiting and Empowering beliefs happens outside our conscious awareness. We take in the thinking pattern that creates the belief by osmosis and with little conscious processing.

Perhaps an even more fascinating aspect of this process is what happens when a child takes on a belief based on the constant repetition of what is not said. This can often happen where there are siblings. If one child is constantly praised for a particular quality such as creativity but this quality is never attributed to the child’s sister an unwitting message is being delivered. Child logicof the sister is such that the child may take on a belief that she is not creative because she is never told that she is. The parents in this case may not think that at all and were unaware of the unconscious response of their child.

The second of the processes responsible for the creating of beliefs is linked to high emotional loadand could be described as trauma. However, this may be misleading as we do get Empowering beliefsthis way too.

Let me expand, a belief or a series of beliefs can arise from one experience where the emotional intensity is particularly high. The emotions could be anything from fear, loss, anger through to joy or feelings of achievement. The key is high intensity chained to high meaning.

In terms of Limiting beliefs, I have worked with many clients who had a “shame”or “humiliation”experience that converted into feelings of low self-worthand confidence. I have also spoken with other people who have a key moment of inspirationbased on an experience in early childhoodthat created a positive drive and a resilient mind-set.

On Wednesday, 9thMay our NLP Practice groupwill explore this topic further. Do email me if you would like to join us. melody@gwinzlp.com

 

Free One Day introduction to Accredited Coaching Diploma “Psychological Approaches to Coaching”

 

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Are you interested in training to become an Accredited Coach?

Or maybe you already work as a coach and want to expand your knowledge..

Either way you are welcome to attend our free one day introduction workshop to find out more about our Association for Coaching Accredited Diploma course:

Psychological Approaches to Coaching

led by

Melody Cheal MSc Psychology & NLP Master Trainer

What are the benefits of attending?

  • Find out more about the content of our Accredited Diploma and if coaching is for you.
  • Gain an understanding of the foundation for coaching
  • Discover the difference between coaching, mentoring and other disciplines.
  • Pick up some useful tools to apply right away.
  • Gain a CPD (Continuous Professional Development) certificate for 6 hours of training.
  • Check that Melody’s training style is a fit for you.
  • Meet and network with people who share your interest.

Where is the free two day introduction course held?

We hold the introduction event and the full course at our own purpose built venue on the edge of the magnificent Ashdown Forest, a national park of outstanding beauty. Ashdown Forest is the original home of Winnie the Pooh!

The venue address is Oakhurst, Marden’s Hill, Crowborough, East Sussex TN6 1XL

How do I book a place?

Contact Melody direct to book a place or to get further information.

Call 01892 309 205 or email melody@gwizlearning.com

Do you want a little more information before you decide?

Here is a brief overview:

The programme is designed to allow learners time to reflect, consolidate and practice between modules. Each module is three days in length and includes supervised coaching practice with feedback.

For experienced coaches there is the opportunity to dip into the programme and attend individual modules. As this course is accredited by the Association for Coaches the modules can be used as CPD.

The modules are:

  • Foundations in Coaching
  • Transactional Analysis for Coaches
  • There’s more going on than you think!
  • Working with a values map

For more details request a course prospectus by emailing melody@gwizlearning.com

Learners will be expected to complete pre-work before each module and once the course has commenced practice coaching to consolidate learning. Modules 2 to 4 will include time for learners to present coaching cases for supervision. All students will need to have cases to present.

For new coaches not yet in practice guidance and support will be given on how to practice ethically and safely during training.

Are you ready to book your free place on the introduction workshop?

Contact Melody direct to book a place or to get further information.

Call 01892 309 205 or email melody@gwizlearning.com

 

 

Becoming Still!

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Simple techniques to help you relax and boost your well-being.

Would you like to:

  • Feel more relaxed?
  • Be calm and peaceful?
  • Tap into your inner, mindful self?
  • Increase your well-being and life satisfaction?

If your answer to all of the above is “yes” this workshop is for you!

This one day workshop uses a combination of Positive Psychology, mindfulness and NLP. You will learn a series of simple ways to help you relax and connect with your inner stillness. A great way to boost you well-being and learn to calm a busy mind.

The workshop is led by Melody Cheal. Melody has an Msc in Applied Positive Psychology and is a Master Trainer of NLP and trainer of Hypnotherapy.

Combine this workshop with “Becoming Happy!” for even great value saving you £50.

contact Melody for more details melody@gwiznlp.com or telephone 01892 309205

 

Becoming Happy!

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Simple techniques to develop a happy mind set

Would you like to:

  • feel happier and more positive?
  • have more creativity and optimism?
  • be more confident?
  • Get a boost to your self-esteem?

If your answer to all of the above is “yes” this workshop is for you!

This one day workshop uses a combination of Positive Psychology and NLP in an experiential format. You will learn a series of simple ways to help you develop a positive, happy and optimistic mind set. A positive mind set can lead to improved self-esteem and confidence in all areas of your life.

The workshop is led by Melody Cheal. Melody has an Msc in Applied Positive Psychology and is a Master Trainer of NLP and trainer of Hypnotherapy.

Combine this workshop with “Becoming Still!” for even great value saving you £50.

contact Melody for more details melody@gwiznlp.com or telephone 01892 309205