What Melody and Joe did at the NLP International Conference 2019

Last week Joe and I were at the NLP Conference in London and so this week I am breaking from my series on Self-care to share our experiences with you.

Judith Delozier and Judith Lowe presented the Maser Class, Passion in Action

Melody with Judith Delozier, known by some as the Mother of NLP

The Conference takes place over three days. The first day is always a Master Class from leading NLP Trainers from around the world. This year was no exception. The speakers were Judith Delozier and Judith Lowe and the topic was “Passion in Action”.

Melody and Joe presenting again at the NLP Conference

Day two and three of the Conference consist of six streams of parallel sessions on a range of topics. This year Joe and I had separate sessions.

My session was first thing on Saturday morning and my topic was

Melody presented a session on The Core Transformation Process

Core Transformations. One of the reasons I ran this session was as an introduction to the work of Connirae Andreas. Connirae will be delivering the Master Class on The Wholeness Work  in 2020.

I am excited to announce that we (GWiz NLP) will be hosting a further three days training with Connirae the weekend after the Conference (more details to follow).

Joe presented a session on The Language of Unconscious Bias

Joe also ran a session on Saturday entitles The Language of Unconscious Bias. If any of you would like a copy of his notes contact me direct and I will forward them to you as a pdf.

 

Our Saturday was very busy with Joe and I chairing the annual meeting of the NLP Leadership Summit. This group is made of up NLP Leaders from around the world united  in a vision to “change the future and pull the field of NLP together”.

What happened at the NLP Awards

Saturday evening was all about the NLP Awards. Joe was the MC for the third year in a row. He was planning to stand down but had so much fun he as agreed to MC next year as well.

For the third year running Joe was the MC for the NLP Awards

Judith Delozier was presented with the Life Time Achievement Awards which was richly deserved. The Award was presented by two other NLP leaders, Robert Dilts and Stephen Gilligan.

Lucas was the winner of the NLP Research Award and Melody was the runner up

I was short listed for the NLP Research Award and was a runner up. The winner was Lucas Derks, whose work on Social Panorama and other allied projects made him a very worthy winner.

Socialising and having fun at the NLP Conference

One of the other aspects of the NLP Conference that Joe and I love is the wonderful social element. Our GWiz NLP Stand became a meeting place and was our base.

Edward Grey collected his Hypnosis Trainer certificates.
Laura collected her NLP Master Practitioner Certificates

We met with many friends from around the world and also made some new connections. It was lovely to see so many people attending the Conference who either began their NLP journey with us or attended a course a long the way.

Thank you to Karen Falconer, Kash Falconer and their team for organising yet another brilliant Conference.

Joe and Melody having fun at the NLP Conference
Caroline Hart and Melody in their “trademark” silly pose!

Did you know that when you learn something new your self-esteem gets a boost?

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What could you learn this week?

This week I’m going to keep it short as I’m busy preparing for the NLP Conference which starts on Friday. Thinking about the Conference and looking at the programme reminded me of the value of learning as a way to boost your self-esteem.

 

This makes learning another form of self-care. This is boosted further when you learn with others. The social element creates a positive affect and a sense of belonging.  When the learning is a little challenging you also get the additional benefit of feelings of accomplishment and success.

 

We recently completed an NLP Practitioner Training spread over several months. The students really bonded and supported each other. On the evaluation days some of the students felt anxious. After the results were announced the feelings of success were even greater.

 

Have you ever had that experience?

 

Take a moment to review what learning opportunities you have given yourself recently.

 

You could choose to learn a new hobby, learn a language or learn a practical skill. What about starting some academic studies? You could even start a journey of self-discovery such as NLP Practitioner or beyond.

 

Some of our new students recorded some reflections on their experience. Click the link to find out more.

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Melody and Joe presenting NLP Practitioner Certificates to Debbie

Next week I’ll be at the NLP Conference so will get back to you the week after.

 

 

 

 

Who are the people who surround you? Do they nourish you or do they drain you?

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Find people who lift your spirits

Although this series is about self-care there is an inter-personal aspect to your well-being that I would like to highlight to you this week.

I wonder, have you considered how much the people you spend time with have an impact on your well-being and your ability to stay resilient?

The relationships you engage in regularly will have a direct influence on your energy levels and your general sense of self. This may not surprise you and yet have you ever stopped to check.

Are the people you spend the most time with:

  • Critical of you and your life.
  • An emotional drain.
  • Needy and demanding.
  • Easily offended and reactionary.
  • Aggressive either to you or in your company to others.
  • Have a negative mindset.

If you answered “yes” to even one or two of the characteristics above the chances are you will feel drained and unhappy after spending time with such people.

So perhaps it is time to change who you spend time with!

I wonder how many of you feel uncomfortable about this suggestion? If you do it will be because you have a value that feels ignored. Maybe loyalty is important to you or kindness. It may be some other value of a similar nature.

I can understand that reaction and yet for your own health it is worth thinking about how much time you spend with people who sap your energy.

Have you applied the above list to yourself, do those characteristic also apply to you? Or maybe they used to. Either way, if you are now committed to self-care practice I recommend you begin widening your circle of friends to include people who:

  • Laugh and smile a lot.
  • Are kind and encouraging.
  • Motivate you and others.
  • Demonstrate that they care about you
  • Are good at turning conflict into conversation
  • Have a growth mindset.
  • Lift your spirits.

Begin by adopting the above behaviours yourself so that you are the kind of person others want to spend time with in order to feel good. Secondly, begin connecting with people who lift your spirits.

You may need to do your homework to find out where these people can be found. May be joining a class or hobby group, maybe going to networking events or social gatherings. In all of these places you will find people who fit both the lists above so be selective.

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Positive people are good for your well-being

One of the easiest ways to start building your new positive network is to sign up to a personal development course such as NLP Practitioner. You are likely to find other people looking for the same thing plus others who already have a genuine positive attitude to life.

As you build your new positive supportive network you may find that some of your old friends will welcome the change in you and begin their own journeys of transformation. There may be others you choose to limit your time with or gently let go of.

Remember you have choice and you deserve happiness, well-being and resilience. You can only be responsible for yourself. Become that person that lifts the spirits of others, I know you can do it.