This week my focus is on relationships and self-care. In my private practice I often work with clients who are experiencing issues in their romantic relationships.
The Relationship Dance
In our book of the same title, Joe and I talk about the Relationship Dance and how there is a flow in a relationship. There are healthy relationships and relationships that are toxic and everything in between. Whatever type of relationship you may be in there is a dance and you co-create your experience with your partner.
If you are currently in relationship, how is it going for you? Do you
feel supported, valued and respected as well as loved? Are you supportive, do you value and respect your partner?
If you answered “no” to any of the above it is worth taking a moment to reflect on your pattern in relationships. Is there an abusive edge to your experience or are you just experiencing dissatisfaction?
People who find themselves in abusive relationships or who themselves are abusive are unlikely to practice positive self-care. This is also true where there is a level of dissatisfaction.
Take a moment to reflect, do you value yourself? Do you respect yourself? Do you ensure you have a supportive environment? Although sometimes cliched, do you love yourself.
If you answer “no” to this set of questions consider this.
If you don’t love, respect and value yourself how can you expect anyone else to?
Often the most important place to start in transforming relationships with others is the relationship with yourself. You may find that if you make friends with yourself your relationship with your partner will start to improve.
This is not a guarantee and you might find that at the point where you are respecting and valuing yourself you might choose to end your relationship.
Once you have a healthy relationship with yourself you will discover you have more effective ways of communicating with your partner. You will be more willing to appreciate and value them and at the same time be more able to speak your truth and maintain boundaries.
I will expand more on this topic over the next few weeks.
If you are ready to start your own self-care journey and have not yet training in NLP now might be the time to sign up for the NLP101 Taster Day on 18thJune or 9thAugust.
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