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What is an NLP Practice Group?

An NLP Practice Group is a very valuable resource particularly for the newly certified NLP Practitioner. It is a place to meet with like-minded people to consolidate your learning.

Most Practice Groups provide you with the opportunity to practice the techniques and skills developed on NLP Practitioner training and above. If you are lucky there will be an NLP Trainer on hand to demonstrate the technique first who will also provide coaching while you practice.

The ANLP is our Professional Accreditation Body providing lots of services for the NLP Community including a place to find out about NLP Practice Groups and Courses. To find your nearest group click the link.

Our monthly NLP Practice group aims to advance, refresh and develop NLP skills and knowledge, by broadening our understanding and applications of NLP. We are part of the ANLP network of NLP Practice Groups so CPD certificates are available.

To attend you must hold a minimum of an Accredited NLP Practitioner Certification.

Each session will include the following:

  • A demonstration of an NLP technique
  • The opportunity to practice the technique with an other participant. Coaching provided by NLP Master Trainers Melody and Joe Cheal.
  • Discussion and questions arising.

If you would like to attend our NLP Practice Group held in Crowborough, East Sussex click the link for dates.

What can you do in your daily self-care practice to promote well-being?

Are you still wondering how to add self-care and well-being into your daily life? Have you tried meditation and struggled to keep it up?

You are not alone. Many people find traditional meditation difficult and are unable to settle. So perhaps you might find a different approach to well-being more helpful.

The trick is to find small changes that make a difference and can fit in with your daily life. There are lots of things you can do such as making time to walk in nature on a regular basis, make sure you are taking care of your body with good diet and exercise and taking time to nurture your emotional and mental well-being.

I discovered the Wholeness Work a few years ago and it really resonated with me. The daily practice is gentle and easy to do. I often use the daily practice before getting out of bed in the morning and find it helps me clear my foggy mind so I am ready for the day.

The Wholeness Work was developed by Connirae Andreas in the USA and in addition to being a great self-care practice it can also help clear some health and emotional issues. On her website there is a free demonstration you can watch to get a better idea of the approach.

I have been using the Wholeness Work personally to help me with a minor health issue.

Recently a new and very fluffy dog joined my life. This seems to have triggered a mild allergic reaction. I’ve been using the next level of the Work to clear the symptoms. Sometimes the symptoms clear completely and sometimes they are just reduced. I will persevere and hopefully repeated use will re-balance my system. One of the things I like about this approach is the honesty of the author, this is not an overnight cure.

The Wholeness Work is a great way to promote feelings of Peace and Wholeness. Repeated use is the pathway to experiencing positive well-being. This approach can be used to clear emotional issues and sometimes help with physical health issues (although the advice remains that you do need to check with a qualified health professional too). Use the Wholeness Work to enhance healing and give yourself the best chance of well-being.

Over the coming months I will share a few more case studies about how the Wholeness Work can help with issues such as Anxiety, Insomnia and even Phantom Limb Syndrome.

Would you like to know more? Contact me to arrange a chat about how you can bring the Wholeness Work into your life or click the link to find out about our introduction workshop The Wholeness Work: A Beginning.

 

How do you choose the right NLP Training Course for you?

Choosing an NLP Training Provider is a big step. You are making an important investment and it is essential that you choose the right one for you.

 

Here are a few pointers to help you consider where to make your investment.

 

Why do you want to take NLP Training?

 

Before sharing some important areas to check it is worth considering your motivation. If you are starting out on your NLP journey you may have a number of different reasons for taking an NLP Training course:

 

  • Perhaps you are looking for a way to make positive changes in your life. This may include increasing your confidence, well-being and resilience. Maybe you have become aware of limiting beliefs that are holding you back, maybe you do not feel “good enough” or feel you have “imposter syndrome”.
  • You may be looking for specific tools to help you in your career such as increasing your ability to build rapport, influence others and make powerful presentations. You may even be interested to find out how NLP can be used to create Excellence in the workplace.
  • You may be a Coach, Therapist or an HR professional looking for more tools to use when helping others who are struggling.
  • You may be considering a career change and wanting to set up your own NLP business and have the long game in mind. You will be looking for a pathway from NLP Practitioner to NLP Master Practitioner to NLP Trainer.
  • Perhaps you are an NLP Master Practitioner and you would like to run your own NLP Diploma, Practitioner and Master Practitioner programmes.
  • Or maybe you are a corporate trainer or someone in business looking to take your presentation and delivery style to the next level.
  • Perhaps you are a life-long learner and enjoy the journey and spending time with like-minded people.

 

Understanding your motivation makes it easier for you to start narrowing down what you need in an NLP Training Provider. So what is next?

 

Always check credentials

 

In recent years we have seen an increase in less than scrupulous people offering courses that are neither recognised or led by Certified NLP Trainers and for NLP Trainer’s Training level Certified NLP Master Trainers.

 

Be wary of any course that is making big claims, suggesting that one session will “cure” everything in clients or their training format will result in you building a successful business overnight.

 

NLP is very powerful and can get fast results however ethical Practitioners and Trainers understand that there are many factors that impact on how quickly change can occur. For instance a person with complex PTSD can be helped quicker with NLP however it takes a lot of training to be experienced enough to work with this kind of issue.

 

In the UK we have an independent Professional body called ANLP (Association for NLP) who Accredit NLP Trainers and Training Courses. Any NLP organisation that has gone through this process has demonstrated that they meet a minimum level of standards, have signed up to a code of ethics and agree to the ANLP complaints procedure.

 

A great question to ask providers is about how close to the minimum standard are they?

 

Some providers have gone through accreditation and have kept to the minimum number of hours for example. Others offer more than double the minimum hours.

 

Currently NLP Practitioner training courses that are 100% online are not recognised by any independent Professional body.

 

Ask questions about the “lineage” of the trainers involved. Good trainers are happy to tell you about their own training and background. Remember to offer NLP Practitioner and NLP Master Practitioner the trainer must be a Certified NLP Trainer. If they are also offering NLP Trainer’s Training they must be an NLP Master Trainer.

 

Sadly we are also seeing a rise in the number of “self-proclaimed” NLP Master Trainers. Check out “lineage” and ask how Master Trainer status was achieved. To give you an idea, it takes two Master Trainers to properly certify a Master Trainer. Therefore their Certificate should then be signed by two reputable Master Trainers. In most case there is a direct lineage back to Richard Bandler or John Grinder.

 

For example, in our school the lineage is as follows. Julie Silverthorn  and John Overdurf were made Master Trainers by Tad James and Wyatt Woodsmall. They in turn were among the first Master Trainers created by Richard Bandler. Julie Silverthorn and John Overdurf then certified Joe and Melody Cheal as NLP Master Trainers.

 

In addition to the signatures Master Trainers need to have been NLP Trainers for at least five years and have delivered 10 practitioner and 10 Master Practitioner courses. They also need to have made a contribution to the field and have assisted other trainers on numerous courses.

 

The ANLP has a listed of recognised NLP Master Trainers in the UK on their website.

 

What do former students say about the training?

 

Checking out testimonials can be useful. If you get a personal recommendation even better. If all else fails do a general search of the trainers names on line to find out more about them. Be wary of any training provider that does not provide basic information about trainers including their background and training.

What support is provided outside of the training?

 

This question is important whatever your reason for training in NLP. If you are looking for personal development is there an option for you to receive personal support from a suitably training coach on a one to one basis? This is particularly important if you have major personal issues you want help with. The course may help clear an issue but sometimes you need more detailed and experienced help.

 

If you are wanting to build your own business it is worth checking out what kind of mentoring, coaching and supervision is offered by your training provider.

 

Some schools of NLP do not offer any support beyond the training.

 

What experience are you looking for?

 

 It is worth thinking about what type of experience you would like to have. For example do you prefer being part of a small group or a large crowd? Some courses have very large numbers (500 or more) and there may be quite a buzz but will you get enough personal feedback and support?

 

We prefer to keep our courses small (8 to 24) and develop a strong on-going relationship with our students helping them reach their full potential.

 

We also believe people learn best when they are relaxed and having fun. So although we ensure the learning is challenging and stretching we make sure everyone feels excited, supported and ready for evaluation.

 

We feel very confident that our training will provide you with one of the very best learning environments, as we teach to both the “conscious and unconscious” minds. We care about you; we will answer your questions and teach you information from “behind the scenes” so that you may integrate NLP at the deepest level possible.

 

Different trainers have different styles. If possible find out more about the trainers you are considering. Many trainers will have audio programmes that will allow you to get a sense of their style or you may be able to attend a practice group or an introduction session. For example we have audio downloads available and would encourage prospective students to attend one of our taster events to find out more about us.

 

What kind of environment are you looking for? Find out more about the venue, it’s location and the atmosphere. Our venue is set on the edge of the tranquil Ashdown Forest National Park and yet is still within easy reach for both Gatwick and Heathrow. Ashdown Forest is an area of outstanding natural beauty and provides space to stop and breathe. We have almost two acres of woodland and gardens at our own purpose built learning centre. This allows us to make full use of all the metaphors of nature that surround us coupled with a friendly and professional set up.

 

Finally if you are a fan of Winnie the Pooh you might just see him with his friends as Ashdown Forest is the inspiration for A.A. Milne’s wonderful books.

 

This is an important investment in your future, it is worth making sure you make the right choice. If you would like further advice do contact Melody to arrange a free Exploration phone call.

 

How Breathing boosts your Well-being in more ways than you might realise

You may already know that breathing “properly” is good for your well-being but do you know exactly how it helps? Knowing how breathing boosts your well-being can provide you with the motivation to add this simple practice to your daily self-care.

 

Breathing through your nose promotes improved brain function, memory, cognition and the processing of emotions. It also gives your heart and lungs a good work out relaxing blood vessels and allowing more oxygen into your system.

 

Breathing slowly, (six breaths per minute) stimulates the vagus nerve calming your entire nervous system and can lead to an altered state of consciousness. All of this helps to improve your well-being.

 

Are you remembering to breathe through your nose?

 

Top tip for today, set a reminder several times a day to stop and check your breathing. By consciously breathing through your nose of a minute or two at a time you will notice the benefits very quickly.

Use breathing as part of your regular self-care practice.

If you are ready to make some serious improvements in your Well-being I have two courses scheduled for March that will really help you.

The first is the Wholeness Work: A Beginning on 5th to 6th March. This workshop will provide you with a daily practice to improve your Well-being and increase your sense of peace and connection to your true self.

The second workshop is Core Transformations on 11th to 13th March. This workshop helps you to integrate those parts of yourself that have been holding you back including issues such as Imposter Syndrome.

If you would like to arrange a free exploration call to find out the best option for you contact me direct melody@gwiznlp.com

How can you let go of Imposter Syndrome and step into your Confidence?

Do you ever feel like you are wearing a mask and that at any moment you will be found out? Behind the mask you might feel like a five year old pretending to be a grown up super hero. This is the feeling of Imposter Syndrome.

 

Could you be a superhero hidden behind Imposter Syndromw?

Photo by Jessica Rockowitz

I wonder if you have ever stopped to consider where Imposter Syndrome comes from. If this is something you have noticed in yourself take a moment to consider what you are saying to yourself that makes you feel like an Imposter.

 

The chances are when you become more aware of what you are saying to yourself you realise that the Imposter is one small part of yourself albeit a loud one. And as you check in with yourself you will probably notice there are other parts that have different things to say. You may even have a part that is already self-confident but is being shouted down by the Imposter part.

 

I often work with people like you helping them integrate parts such as the part driving Imposter Syndrome. I always start by helping you recognise that this part is really just trying to protect you in some way. It has a positive intention.

 

Very often as you begin to explore what is really going on internally you will discover that this part represents a much younger version of you. It is the you that may have had criticism or negative feedback, may have been unfavourably compared to others or in some way scared by an experience. This part needs help accessing the here and now version of you who is already resourceful and in at least some situations confident.

 

Processes such as the Core Transformation Process developed by Connirae Andreas can really help to integrate parts that are holding you back from living the life you want to live. When I work with people either individually or on a Core Transformation Workshop I am always amazed at how powerful the transformations can be.

 

So if you are wrestling with Imposter Syndrome or lack of Confidence contact me to arrange a free Exploration Call to find out the best plan for you.

 

To find out more about Core Transformations click here.

Creating a self-care positive reminiscing practice

One of my Christmas gifts this year was in a beautiful box and although I loved the gift inside I was very drawn to the box. Have you ever seen a child who wants to play more with the box more than the toy? If you have a cat I bet you know how important boxes are.  I thought about how it can help me with self-care.

Cants practicing their own self-care
Photo by Chris Boyer

I have decided to put this particular beautiful box to good use in a way that allows me to enjoy it every day. I am going to use it as a memory box to store momentoes from 2020. I thought I would share this idea with you as a tip to help in your self-care and well-being practice.

 

This idea is a variation on the positive thoughts jar and is based on noticing the good things as they happen.

Once or twice a week take a few minutes to add items to your memory box. If you spend time with people you love to write a note to yourself about it. Maybe print off a picture. There may be small items that remind you of the experience that are meaningful to you but might mean nothing at all to someone else.

 

I like to put tickets from events, brochures of a show or an acorn picked up on a walk into my memory box.  I think there may be a muddy footprint going in soon from my new dog, Riva. She is very good at producing them.

 

If someone gives you a “thank you” card pop it in the box. If someone is kind to you make a note. If someone gives you a bunch of flowers revive the old art of flower pressing so you can keep one bloom in your box. The things you find meaningful will be very personal to you. If you are a parent you might include a picture drawn by your child or a hand made present. We are all so used to taking pictures on our phones yet there is something special about a photo print. Make sure you select some favourites to include in your self-care Memory Box.

As part of your self care why not start a memory box?
Photo by Roman Kraft

At the end of the year, you can go through your special memory box and reminisce about the year past. Reminiscing is a great way to strengthen your sense of well-being and resilience.

 

What will be the first thing you place in your memory box?  Get in touch on Facebook and let me know.

 

Why do you bother with New Year Resolutions? Isn’t it just a set up to failure?

Photo by Cathryn Lavery

Have you ever found yourself wondering why so many of us feel compelled to set New Year Resolutions? How often have you set them and achieved what you set out to do? Do you “resolutely” refuse to get involved?

 

Whatever your story it is worth recognising that the idea of New Year Resolutions is a part of our culture and there must be a reason they persist.

 

Here is my take on it, you and I are looking for meaning and purpose in life.

The search for meaning and purpose is as old as time but why is it so important?

 

In Positive Psychology the importance of meaning and purpose has been studied a great deal over the last two decades. Finding a sense of meaning and purpose will improve your general well-being and health. As a species we do better when you have a sense of what the point is.

 

Setting new goals each year is part of this search however there is a risk you are setting yourself up in a hope /disillusionment cycle. You start off full of optimism and then run out of steam when life intrudes.

 

So this year I have a suggestion. Instead of looking forward start by look back instead. Review your year and identify the meaning from the experiences of the last twelve months. Many of you will have had a tough 2019, I certainly know I did, so make sure you check which lens you look through as you review. Here is a simple set of steps to follow:

 

  1. Write a list of all the standout moments of 2019 (big and small, positive and negative).
  2. Sort your list into sections; for example, “moments that lifted you up or made you smile” and “moments that challenged or disappointed you”. You might even have a list of things that were painful.
  3. With each item identify what you are grateful for. For example, in the final days of 2019, my Dad died. I am grateful that I was with him at the end and got a chance to tell him I loved him. I also delivered a eulogy at his funeral in January.
  4. With each item make a note of what you learnt. For example, I was reminded that my time is precious and I needed to review where I was spending it. I made some important decisions based on this learning.
  5. How has your perception changed about who you are over the last 12 months?
  6. Finally, what do you want to carry forward with you from these experiences?

 

Is photography one of your New Year Resolutions?
Photo by Paul Skorupskas

These are my musings for today and if I wrote them again I might write them differently. What meaning can I take from that? Life is ever-changing and being flexible and willing to let go brings peace and serenity to me.

What is the most important learning you discovered in 2019?

 

How can you boost well-being in yourself and others?

As we move into the Festive Season I thought you might find it helpful to consider some simple ways to boost well-being both in yourself and in others. Here are five simple tips that you can apply in your life and encourage in others.

  1. Make a point of noticing the small things that, when you focus on them can make you smile. This includes noticing the beauty of a raindrop on a leaf, hearing the laughter of children playing and acknowledging the warmth of a hug from a friend or loved one. By noticing small things you are constantly topping up your inner well of good feelings. Help boost well-being in others by sharing those moments.
  2. Set aside a little time each day as “Me” time. Choose something that nourishes your soul whether it is a soak in the tub, a walk in nature or drinking hot chocolate by the fire. In this way, you are learning to live in the present moment which is a great path to well-being and peace. Support and encourage others to do the same. When you take the time to re-charge your batteries you have more energy to help others.
  3. As you look to the future make a point of planning some great things to look forward to. Make a plan, get excited and share the journey with those you care about.
  4. In a similar way, it is time to get out those rose-tinted glasses. Start a habit of positive reminiscing. Remember fond experiences from your past and share them with others. Storytelling is in our DNA and it is a way of bonding. Playing the “do you remember …” game with those you love can be a beautiful way to strengthen relationships.
  5. Practice the habit of random acts of kindness. If you have not heard of this habit let me explain. Find ways to help others where you have no particular expectation of thanks or recognition. It can be a small thing or you might even decide to start volunteering for a good cause on a regular basis. There is a paradox when we help others with no expectation of thanks we actually do get rewarded by a boost in our sense of well-being. This is because we are satisfying a human need to contribute and make a difference.

practice kindness to boost well-being

 

Some of these tips are drawn from our book The Little Book of Resilience.  To buy your copy for just £8.99 click the link

 

 

Do you ever feel like you are an imposter? Do you worry about people finding out that you are not as confident as you seem?

I speak to a lot of people who feel as if they will be found out, they feel like imposters (hence the term ‘Imposter Syndrome’) including those who are really successful in their careers.

One person with Imposter Syndrome I worked with was a Chief Executive who on the surface was confident, motivated and inspirational. On the inside, she had self-doubt and did not believe she was capable of anything. She doubted her right to lead and was certain that other people could tell that she was an imposter.

Other people looking at her thought she was amazing and of course, she was. She just couldn’t believe it about herself.

I worked with her on a number of levels including one to one in executive coaching sessions and during NLP Practitioner training.

During an executive coaching session, she identified that she had an internal voice that was telling her she didn’t know what she was doing, that she knew nothing about business.

She realised it sounded like her Dad and was repeating generalised beliefs that he had about women in the business world.

You may have noticed similar internal self-talk that may be criticising you or doubting you. Of course, these voices are all part of you and very normal. However, this internal self-talk can really have an impact on how you feel and behave. The phrases your self-talk keep repeating are internalised versions of messages you received during your childhood. These create the beliefs you hold about yourself.

Using NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) I coached the CEO in this example, in a simple technique that allowed her to change the qualities of this voice.  She made the voice sound silly so she could no longer take it seriously.

By changing the quality of the voice I was able to help her change the impact of her internal self-talk.  Thus removing her ‘Imposter Syndrome’.

Within a month she noticed significant changes in her confidence and her ability to value herself. As an added bonus it also improved her real-time relationship with her Dad as she became better able to filter out his negative opinions and focus on the good part of the bond she had with him.

NLP has a lot of simple immediate applications in both the workplace and your personal life that can help you to make a significant change in how you feel about yourself particularly with issues such as imposter syndrome.

This client also chose to take the full NLP Practitioner training with us so she could develop a set of self-coaching skills that would help her on a day to day basis.Creating change from Imposter Syndrome

Do you ever feel like something is holding you back? Maybe you even recognise that imposter syndrome is something you experience too?

 

If you would like to find out how to develop your own self-coaching tools or to gain some personal coaching

email me at melody@gwiznlp.com to arrange an initial, free discovery phone call.

There must be more to life than this!

Photo by Jannes Jacobs

Have you ever found yourself questioning life in this way?

I was at this point in my life when I was twenty-nine years old. I was depressed, in an abusive marriage and in a job where I was not valued. It was a crisis point for me and I was looking for something to make a difference, to give me purpose and joy.

 

Feeling that there must be more to life than this was what motivated me to begin my personal development journey. When I look back I recognise that I thought I was worthless and my self-esteem was rock bottom. I didn’t trust others and felt isolated and unloved.

 

A friend recommended a workshop that used visualisation and discussion about perceptions and patterns. My friend has attended this training themselves and thought I would find it helpful.

It felt like a risk but I decided to do it anyway.

It was an eye opener for me and I experienced a paradigm shift in my thinking. This is what happens when you experience a sudden shift in perception. I suddenly knew at a deep level that I did have value and worth as a human being. Perhaps just as importantly I also recognised the worth and value in others. I believe this is key for healthy self-esteem.

 

This experience led to me spending two years focusing on my personal development. During that time I left the abusive marriage, I took redundancy and signed up for a University degree in Psychology.

 

A year into my journey I met Joe and in him found a true life partner. We have now been married for twenty-five years and have worked together happily (in all senses) throughout that time.

 

Everything changed and at the time I didn’t fully appreciate what had changed.

 

On reflection I now realise that I had lived the first twenty-nine years of my life with a fixed mindset. That first workshop allowed me to shift to a growth mindset and reappraise my core beliefs about myself and others.

 

There is more to life and I discovered my purpose. I earn my living helping other people make these changes. I get to feel like I am making a significant difference in the lives of others and this is so rewarding.

 

I also get to feel that I have a value and that I don’t have to do anything to earn that. Just as I recognise you have value simply by existing I recognised the same about myself.

 

Do you need to make changes in your life? Do you know how? Do you have the support you need in order to be successful? Happy? Fulfilled?

 

If you would like to have a chat with me about how I can help you make the changes you need contact me by message or email to arrange a time for a phone call.

Photo by Avi Richards

There is more to life and it is time for you to find meaning and purpose in your life. Take the risk, reach out today.