When is a positive attitude unhealthy? Find 1 way to avoid denial and stay positive.

I’ve noticed an interesting new response on some social media platforms to the global issues currently taking centre stage. There is a denial of the extent of the issues and a suggestion that if you look for “evil” you will create it. The inference is that people commenting on these big issues are not being positive and are somehow wrong.

Is that true?

The writers of this message and similar ones are telling you to just look for the good in others and ignore messages such as Black lives matter, socially distance, and Climate Change is already here.

can positive messages be sometimes unhelpful?
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I saw one post claiming that 99.9% of the population are not racist. What an extraordinary claim particularly when you consider unconscious bias and cultural norms. There are conspiracy theories about the Coronavirus, Climate Change and many other topics.


Now you may have your own opinions about any one of these messages and I agree we are surrounded by conflicting messages some backed up by good research and some based on the opinion of a self-appointed expert. How do you decide what to believe?


I can’t tell you that, only you can decide.

The point I wanted to make today is that having a positive attitude is good for your well-being, yes. Make the most of your life, adapt to change and do your best to see the good in others. All of that is great for your well-being.

If, however, your positive attitude is based on looking at the world through rose-tinted glasses you are running the risk of living in denial. This risk can ultimately come back to create problems in your life.

For example, I do believe in the potential for good in others and at the same time, I do know that due to unconscious bias, limiting beliefs, low self-worth, anxiety and fear people can do bad things.

Many of the reactive messages to Black lives matter are triggered by fear and insecurity for example. I have been surprised that some people I know well have repeated these unhelpful messages. This bothers me and at the same time does not surprise me.

How can you think differently?

This is how I do it. I can sit in my garden as I am right now and enjoy the sunshine and at the same time understand that we need to address Climate Change. I am able to recognise that I can make a difference and do need to commit to specific actions. Having recognised what I need to do I can allow myself to also enjoy what life has to offer. This keeps me plugged into the world and at the same time allows me to maintain my well-being.

What can you do to keep balance in your life?

What can you do to keep balance in your life?Part of my personal mission going forward is that I will continue to speak my truth, I will listen to the truth of others and try to understand it. If I disagree I will say so and I might even sometimes get angry. I will continue to remind myself there are still issues in the world that need to be addressed personally and at a national level. I will continue to remind myself it is okay to find love and joy in the world.


What is your mission? What is important to you?


1 Daily self-care practice to check in with your values

What are your values? Are you living yours?

You don’t often talk about values in the busy rush of life and yet they are so important. The current world of Social Distancing is giving us less time to be busy doing and more time to do some being.

This is great for your daily self-care provided you make sure your focus stays healthy.

There are so many things happening beyond Corona right now and many people are considering where they stand. Are you thinking about where you stand on the major issues facing us all? Whether it is concern about front line workers at risk from the virus, Black Lives Matter, Climate Change or the economy it is your values that will lead your response.

Protect your mental health by creating clarity about what matters to you. Decide what you can do and want to do in alignment with your values. Take action that fits your value system. Accept what is out of your control.

Make sure you take some time for you. If you can get out in a garden or in Nature. Restore your Spirit, use this strange time in history to reflect.

Daily self-care is more than looking after your body and your emotions. When you live in a way that clashes with your values you create inner stress. Take some time to listen to your inner compass this will connect you with your values. I wonder how many of you will connect with compassion, kindness, fairness, connection, love, trust, honesty, equality, loyalty, authenticity, ……….

daily self-care by reflecting on your values
Restore your Spirit

Notice if you discover internal clashes in your values or ones that don’t feel nurturing to your spirit. Self-reflection is one way to begin re-aligning and strengthening your core values. Sometimes you may need a little help. For example, there are processes that can help you resolve internal clashes such as Parts Integration (Visual Squash) and Core Transformation.

What are your values? Are you living yours?

What is Imposter Syndrome? How can you make changes that last?

The topic of Imposter Syndrome has been suggested for our next NLP Practice Group (2nd July) so I thought it would be useful to revisit this issue.

Imposter Syndrome is a fairly new label and you could argue it replaces older labels of low self-esteem or low self-confidence. I believe it is a little more than that.

I often hear Imposter Syndrome described as feeling like you are a child who is pretending to be grown up and afraid that someone will see through your disguise. I usually hear this from people who are perceived as talented, successful, clever, skilled and accomplished.

Do you ever feel like that?

What causes Imposter Syndrome?

Our modern Social Media driven world is swamped with images of people proclaiming their success, happiness and brilliance. Even if you look at all the shiny posts with an air of cynicism you might find it hard to ignore this subtle pressure to judge or be judged.

You may not be surprised that in my private practice and when talking to students on my personal development courses I often hear confessions about a fake Social Media life. In most cases the confessor is a lovely person feeling pressure to project success to the world. The isolation felt by the drive to project this image of success leaves them feeling like an imposter.

The second version of Imposter Syndrome is related to the first in some ways and has been around a lot longer. In the business world there is a similar culture of admiration for the successful. There is a need to keep performing at higher and higher levels. When you do achieve success and approval of your peers it can often be accompanied by a sinking feeling. This can often be self-doubt, anxiety and a fear of being found out.

The paradox I often encounter is that you are successful and achieving in your field and despite this you end up feeling like an imposter.

So why doesn’t everyone have Imposter Syndrome?

Good question. You will probably not be surprised when I tell you there is a childhood connection. Within family systems there are often unconscious and sometimes conscious pressures on children to succeed. There can be a generational aspect of this where the same drive is transmitted from one generation to the next.

If is worth noting that often family cultures driving a focus on success are born out of positive intention for the child to live a happy and secure life.

The problem occurs as the child internalises messages both direct and indirect from family systems. The translation into the child’s perception may lead to feelings of inadequacy and reduced worth. The child develops that familiar script of “not good enough.”

As an adult no matter what you do to feel “good enough” it is never enough because that internal critic is never satisfied. Praise from others is ignored or discounted and Imposter Syndrome is born.

What is the solution?

I’m not sure there is just one solution. The first step you need to take is to increase your self-awareness. Acknowledge all the influences that forced you to feel driven to project success.

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Take stock of the evidence by stepping back and acknowledging your skills, talents, achievements etc. Appreciate what your strengths are.

You also need to discover the truth about “weaknesses”. I don’t like to use that term but it is a common source of anxiety. No one knows everything, no one is good at everything, no one is without issues at some point in their life (both large and small).

If there are gaps in your knowledge or capability the truth is if you want to you could put some energy into learning more. Alternatively, you could just acknowledge it is a gap and evaluate if you even need to do anything about it. It is okay to have gaps.

One of the most powerful signs of self-confidence and self-worth is when you feel comfortable admitting you don’t know something or don’t know how to do something or even that you made a mistake.

You don’t need to plaster it all over Social Media in doing so just acknowledge to yourself and those you trust. I say this because others may criticise you born out of their own anxiety.

Your value as a human being has absolutely nothing to do with your achievements and success. It has everything to do with knowing you were born worthy and that you can accept that are others are worthy too.

Imposter Syndrome
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Changing how you think about something is not often easy. If you start by challenging your thinking and looking for alternate perspectives you can make a start.

When I work with people in my private practice I use approaches such as Core Transformations, The Wholeness Work and NLP to help my clients make deep changes. I sometimes share models such as Transactional Analysis and Emotional Intelligence to provide some new ways of thinking.

Taking some kind of personal development training can often help you make these shifts quickly particularly if you make developing a stronger sense of self-worth your focus.

What I love about helping people do that is watching the transformation that follows.

You will have so much more energy to make a real contribution to the world when you no longer bother about how people see you. It will give you the freedom to truly follow your dreams. You really will make a difference in the world.

Why is it so difficult to work from home?

Work from home. Why is it so difficult?

Why is it so difficult to work from home? Why can’t you concentrate and stay focused?

The short answer is; there is a mismatch between expectations and reality.  To work from home is always something that requires a major adjustment but in the current health crisis situation the adjustment required is far greater.

I have both students and clients telling me that they feel like failures, they feel as if they are letting everyone down. The challenges for those home-schooling children are even greater and from parents I am hearing self-criticism about their parenting skills and their work performance.


What can employers do to help? What can you do as an individual to cope better?


If you are an employer or an HR professional there are things you can do that will help. The first will be to openly acknowledge that you recognise that completing tasks at home will be slower.

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Reviewer expectations and targets will really help. Often there is a recognition of the pressure staff are under but this may not have been communicated. Be direct and clear that you understand working from home right now if hard.


As I discuss why working at home is so difficult I will include tips for the individual and the employer. You may read this from your personal perspective and/or consider discussing these issues with your employer or manager if you need more support.


In normal times switching to home working involves changing your major social patterns. If you are used to going into the office and working with a group or team of people you will have been part of a complex social network. Unlike media versions this network will involve interacting with “real” people in “real” time.


This interacting and relating with others fulfils a very specific human need for connection. The social part of the workplace “oils” the “wheels” of productivity. Losing this connection is not always appreciated at first but the impact will be felt as loneliness or isolation.


In normal times you would be able to go to the shops, the gym and socialise outside of your working hours and this would ease the change. Usually, when I coach the newly self-employed I help them plan how they will top up their business relating activities to help fill this need. This is why face to face networking has such an important role to play.


In the current environment, all of the other ways of relating to others have also been removed intensifying this issue of isolation leading to feelings of depression and loneliness.


As an individual what can you do?


Take regular breaks and if you can have people you can have a ten to twenty minute chat with over a coffee. Use video conferencing media such as Facetime, Zoom, Skype or Whatsapp. Seeing each other will help.


As an employer, you might want to facilitate office “coffee breaks”.


If the team manager makes a point of inviting people to such meetings where the focus is on the social rather than business staff will feel they have permission to take such breaks.


For most people, ninety minutes is an average length of time before you need to take a full break and you may need mini-breaks of just getting up and walking around every thirty minutes or so. Doing this will help to keep your focus and concentration.


There is a paradox in this advice and some of the others I will be sharing. As an employer or HR professional, you may feel you are encouraging people not to work however this is about working smarter.  Productivity will in all likelihood go up if you support staff in this way.


The next consideration is your working space. If you were looking at home working long term finding a specific place to work in your home is a really good idea. It helps to create a sense of routine and a place where your workspace is defined. This is to ensure you don’t feel as if you are at work all the time.


If you and other members of the household are all working from home it might be worth discussing the best way to share space and/or computer time.


In many households, there may be at least two people working from home plus children being homeschooled. This extra pressure may make finding a dedicated workspace more challenging. If this is true for you acknowledge that lack of space will be challenging. When you acknowledge an issue it is easier to move forward.


As an employer knowing the individual challenges of your team can allow you to be more flexible and understanding about the realistic number of work hours that can be expected.


The quality of broadband in your home may also be far less than the industrial level. If there are also several people working on the same connection you may find things take longer to do. If you also need to share equipment this, of course, causes more delays.


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I am not going to write a great deal about homeschooling here as for me it is all theory as this is not an issue I need to deal with. What I will say is that employers need to be realistic about just how much-focused concentration staff may have available. Most people really are trying their best to do a good job and then being overly self-critical. As an employer demonstrating understanding will be appreciated.


That self-isolating without children will also have challenges. If living alone being solitary for many will be very hard so the virtual coffee breaks are key.


Families with and without children may experience heightened emotional states resulting in more arguments than normal. The toll on relationships may well be high.


Add to all of the above the underlying stress we are all feeling caused by uncertainty and genuine fear for the future it is no wonder doing work from home is so difficult.


My number one tip if you are home working is to take a step back and evaluate what can you realistically do? And then give yourself permission to accept that you will not necessarily be as productive at home as you are at work. Alter your expectations and be kind to yourself. Let go of the self-criticism and if necessary reach out for support.


If you are an employer, find out more about each person’s personal circumstances and reassure them that you know they are doing their best. In the long run, this will allow staff time to adjust and performance will gradually improve if the lockdown continues.  In the best of all worlds, we will be able to return to our normal work patterns. The staff that feel appreciated and supported will naturally be more motivated and loyal. Taking care of your staff now will bring rewards in the future.



positive psychology with NLP Melody Cheal

Are you feeling overwhelmed or angry about the current health crisis? Try Positive Psychology

Are you feeling overwhelmed, anxious or angry about the current health crisis? Would you like some simple ideas in Positive Psychology to help you cope better? I hope this post will help you.


Have you noticed the extremes of emotions and opinions on posts on Social Media? Some posts are angry and opinionated while others might seem fluffy and cliched. Striking a balance to keep your mental health strong is not easy.


In Positive Psychology Optimism is recognised as a powerful mindset for mental health however to stay fully healthy it is important to avoid slipping into Rose Tinted Glasses territory. A small dose of pessimism is healthy in that it motivates you to stay informed and take sensible precautions.


To stay mentally healthy live in Optimism and keep a small bag of pessimism as a safety check on your behaviours and actions. 


Stay informed but make sure you are listening to credible sources only. There are thousands of instant experts and conspiracy theorists flooding the internet with ideas. Be wary of following such sources. There is a risk that this will push you into unhealthy thinking patterns which in turn risk a negative impact on your well-being. Access reliable news once a day and then put your focus into ways to keep yourself engaged with a positive focus.


Gaining a sense of purpose and meaning will help strengthen your mindset. If you are self-isolating or working from home finding meaning and purpose may need to be a conscious decision. Those of you who have volunteered to help others will automatically have increased this sense.


You will probably already know that exercise will also have a positive impact and it is worth recognising that exercise releases positive chemicals in the brain and body. Not only will it boost your immune system, you will also feel better psychologically and emotionally.


If you feel overwhelmed with fear, anxiety and/or anger start by acknowledging that you have these feelings. Verbally expressing these feelings to someone who can listen with no judgement can be helpful. Being the listener for someone else can also help.


I recommend that instead of expressing, particularly anger on Social Media you instead write down or type into a word document how you feel. Grammar and spelling are unimportant, you are doing this just for you.

There is positive psychology research that suggests that when you write negative emotions down it helps you gain some distance and relief. Writing down rather than typing seems to be the most powerful format for this.


If you need a bit more help there are thousands of professional NLP Practitioners, counsellors, therapists and coaches still working via video conferencing. Do your research and pick a professional who has a credible track record and where possible get a recommendation from someone you know.


Social contact is important for well-being so make sure you have regular phone and video conferencing with your loved ones and friends. There are many clubs and social groups that have shifted to video conferencing. Use this positive psychology time as an opportunity to explore a new interest or hobby.


I also recommend, if you are not doing so already, that you start a gratitude diary. This is a tool that in Positive Psychology has a lot of research behind it. This is a simple daily task that has been demonstrated a powerful positive impact on mental well-being.


Many of the things you write down may seem simple, that is okay. Make a point of recording five things, it is okay to have some repetition. If you have children do this with them, it can become a family tradition and you will be helping your children build resilience that will last a lifetime. For example here is my list today.


  1. I still feel well.
  2. It is a beautiful day.
  3. My dogs have already made me laugh lots of times.
  4. I’m feeling creative.
  5. I am impressed with Mercedes Formula 1 for inventing a new type of breathing equipment to help save lives.


Just seen Harry the war veteran on a TV fundraiser and he said: “I’m free in my mind, I can go anywhere in my mind”. Very good point.


Orinoco, Riva and Tawny

Watch some TV that uplifts you. I’m sharing pictures of my dogs to make my contribution to creating Positive Psychology Virtual Hugs.


Stay well and safe.

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Social distancing guidelines, Why are so many people ignoring them? 1 curious reason…

I wrote the following post on Social Media about why are people are ignoring social distancing guidelines (shared a week ago) and thought it would be useful to share as a blog, so here it is.

I’m seeing a lot of posts asking why so many people are ignoring the guidelines about social distancing so I thought I would share one possible psychological reason.

We are all going through what is known as the Change Curve. The Change Curve is an adaptation of the earlier work of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book”On Death and Dying”. The adaptation applies to any major change, good or bad that you might experience.

the change curve - one possible explaination for lack of social distancing
The Change Curve
Image Borrowed from Sussex University

People move through this curve at different speeds.

The people carrying on as if there is no problem are currently in the denial phase.

Those of you getting angry about their behaviour are in the anger/blame/fear/emotion phase. You might also be in this phase if you have been doing anti-social behaviours such as panic buying. It will be driven by fear.

On my post on Social Media, I had one person get very angry about this comment thinking it was an excuse for poor behaviour. It is not, it is merely an explanation.

Some of you may be in stage 5, depression. Whatever stage you are in, it helps to know there is a process. Self-awareness can help you move through the stages quicker. Help from an NLP Practitioner, Coach, Counsellor or Therapist may also help if you are stuck.

Moving to Acceptance will help you regain positivity, adaptability and creativity. We all need to find creative ways to get through this crisis with our mental health intact. Some of us will need to get creative about how to earn money. It is possible.


Where are you in your process?


Here is the link to the page I borrowed the image from on the Sussex University website

What is an NLP Practice Group?

An NLP Practice Group is a very valuable resource particularly for the newly certified NLP Practitioner. It is a place to meet with like-minded people to consolidate your learning.

Most Practice Groups provide you with the opportunity to practice the techniques and skills developed on NLP Practitioner training and above. If you are lucky there will be an NLP Trainer on hand to demonstrate the technique first who will also provide coaching while you practice.

The ANLP is our Professional Accreditation Body providing lots of services for the NLP Community including a place to find out about NLP Practice Groups and Courses. To find your nearest group click the link.

Our monthly NLP Practice group aims to advance, refresh and develop NLP skills and knowledge, by broadening our understanding and applications of NLP. We are part of the ANLP network of NLP Practice Groups so CPD certificates are available.

To attend you must hold a minimum of an Accredited NLP Practitioner Certification.

Each session will include the following:

  • A demonstration of an NLP technique
  • The opportunity to practice the technique with an other participant. Coaching provided by NLP Master Trainers Melody and Joe Cheal.
  • Discussion and questions arising.

If you would like to attend our NLP Practice Group held in Crowborough, East Sussex click the link for dates.

What can you do in your daily self-care practice to promote well-being?

Are you still wondering how to add self-care and well-being into your daily life? Have you tried meditation and struggled to keep it up?

You are not alone. Many people find traditional meditation difficult and are unable to settle. So perhaps you might find a different approach to well-being more helpful.

The trick is to find small changes that make a difference and can fit in with your daily life. There are lots of things you can do such as making time to walk in nature on a regular basis, make sure you are taking care of your body with good diet and exercise and taking time to nurture your emotional and mental well-being.

I discovered the Wholeness Work a few years ago and it really resonated with me. The daily practice is gentle and easy to do. I often use the daily practice before getting out of bed in the morning and find it helps me clear my foggy mind so I am ready for the day.

The Wholeness Work was developed by Connirae Andreas in the USA and in addition to being a great self-care practice it can also help clear some health and emotional issues. On her website there is a free demonstration you can watch to get a better idea of the approach.

I have been using the Wholeness Work personally to help me with a minor health issue.

Recently a new and very fluffy dog joined my life. This seems to have triggered a mild allergic reaction. I’ve been using the next level of the Work to clear the symptoms. Sometimes the symptoms clear completely and sometimes they are just reduced. I will persevere and hopefully repeated use will re-balance my system. One of the things I like about this approach is the honesty of the author, this is not an overnight cure.

The Wholeness Work is a great way to promote feelings of Peace and Wholeness. Repeated use is the pathway to experiencing positive well-being. This approach can be used to clear emotional issues and sometimes help with physical health issues (although the advice remains that you do need to check with a qualified health professional too). Use the Wholeness Work to enhance healing and give yourself the best chance of well-being.

Over the coming months I will share a few more case studies about how the Wholeness Work can help with issues such as Anxiety, Insomnia and even Phantom Limb Syndrome.

Would you like to know more? Contact me to arrange a chat about how you can bring the Wholeness Work into your life or click the link to find out about our introduction workshop The Wholeness Work: A Beginning.


How do you choose the right NLP Training Course for you?

Choosing an NLP Training Provider is a big step. You are making an important investment and it is essential that you choose the right one for you.


Here are a few pointers to help you consider where to make your investment.


Why do you want to take NLP Training?


Before sharing some important areas to check it is worth considering your motivation. If you are starting out on your NLP journey you may have a number of different reasons for taking an NLP Training course:


  • Perhaps you are looking for a way to make positive changes in your life. This may include increasing your confidence, well-being and resilience. Maybe you have become aware of limiting beliefs that are holding you back, maybe you do not feel “good enough” or feel you have “imposter syndrome”.
  • You may be looking for specific tools to help you in your career such as increasing your ability to build rapport, influence others and make powerful presentations. You may even be interested to find out how NLP can be used to create Excellence in the workplace.
  • You may be a Coach, Therapist or an HR professional looking for more tools to use when helping others who are struggling.
  • You may be considering a career change and wanting to set up your own NLP business and have the long game in mind. You will be looking for a pathway from NLP Practitioner to NLP Master Practitioner to NLP Trainer.
  • Perhaps you are an NLP Master Practitioner and you would like to run your own NLP Diploma, Practitioner and Master Practitioner programmes.
  • Or maybe you are a corporate trainer or someone in business looking to take your presentation and delivery style to the next level.
  • Perhaps you are a life-long learner and enjoy the journey and spending time with like-minded people.


Understanding your motivation makes it easier for you to start narrowing down what you need in an NLP Training Provider. So what is next?


Always check credentials


In recent years we have seen an increase in less than scrupulous people offering courses that are neither recognised or led by Certified NLP Trainers and for NLP Trainer’s Training level Certified NLP Master Trainers.


Be wary of any course that is making big claims, suggesting that one session will “cure” everything in clients or their training format will result in you building a successful business overnight.


NLP is very powerful and can get fast results however ethical Practitioners and Trainers understand that there are many factors that impact on how quickly change can occur. For instance a person with complex PTSD can be helped quicker with NLP however it takes a lot of training to be experienced enough to work with this kind of issue.


In the UK we have an independent Professional body called ANLP (Association for NLP) who Accredit NLP Trainers and Training Courses. Any NLP organisation that has gone through this process has demonstrated that they meet a minimum level of standards, have signed up to a code of ethics and agree to the ANLP complaints procedure.


A great question to ask providers is about how close to the minimum standard are they?


Some providers have gone through accreditation and have kept to the minimum number of hours for example. Others offer more than double the minimum hours.


Currently NLP Practitioner training courses that are 100% online are not recognised by any independent Professional body.


Ask questions about the “lineage” of the trainers involved. Good trainers are happy to tell you about their own training and background. Remember to offer NLP Practitioner and NLP Master Practitioner the trainer must be a Certified NLP Trainer. If they are also offering NLP Trainer’s Training they must be an NLP Master Trainer.


Sadly we are also seeing a rise in the number of “self-proclaimed” NLP Master Trainers. Check out “lineage” and ask how Master Trainer status was achieved. To give you an idea, it takes two Master Trainers to properly certify a Master Trainer. Therefore their Certificate should then be signed by two reputable Master Trainers. In most case there is a direct lineage back to Richard Bandler or John Grinder.


For example, in our school the lineage is as follows. Julie Silverthorn  and John Overdurf were made Master Trainers by Tad James and Wyatt Woodsmall. They in turn were among the first Master Trainers created by Richard Bandler. Julie Silverthorn and John Overdurf then certified Joe and Melody Cheal as NLP Master Trainers.


In addition to the signatures Master Trainers need to have been NLP Trainers for at least five years and have delivered 10 practitioner and 10 Master Practitioner courses. They also need to have made a contribution to the field and have assisted other trainers on numerous courses.


The ANLP has a listed of recognised NLP Master Trainers in the UK on their website.


What do former students say about the training?


Checking out testimonials can be useful. If you get a personal recommendation even better. If all else fails do a general search of the trainers names on line to find out more about them. Be wary of any training provider that does not provide basic information about trainers including their background and training.

What support is provided outside of the training?


This question is important whatever your reason for training in NLP. If you are looking for personal development is there an option for you to receive personal support from a suitably training coach on a one to one basis? This is particularly important if you have major personal issues you want help with. The course may help clear an issue but sometimes you need more detailed and experienced help.


If you are wanting to build your own business it is worth checking out what kind of mentoring, coaching and supervision is offered by your training provider.


Some schools of NLP do not offer any support beyond the training.


What experience are you looking for?


 It is worth thinking about what type of experience you would like to have. For example do you prefer being part of a small group or a large crowd? Some courses have very large numbers (500 or more) and there may be quite a buzz but will you get enough personal feedback and support?


We prefer to keep our courses small (8 to 24) and develop a strong on-going relationship with our students helping them reach their full potential.


We also believe people learn best when they are relaxed and having fun. So although we ensure the learning is challenging and stretching we make sure everyone feels excited, supported and ready for evaluation.


We feel very confident that our training will provide you with one of the very best learning environments, as we teach to both the “conscious and unconscious” minds. We care about you; we will answer your questions and teach you information from “behind the scenes” so that you may integrate NLP at the deepest level possible.


Different trainers have different styles. If possible find out more about the trainers you are considering. Many trainers will have audio programmes that will allow you to get a sense of their style or you may be able to attend a practice group or an introduction session. For example we have audio downloads available and would encourage prospective students to attend one of our taster events to find out more about us.


What kind of environment are you looking for? Find out more about the venue, it’s location and the atmosphere. Our venue is set on the edge of the tranquil Ashdown Forest National Park and yet is still within easy reach for both Gatwick and Heathrow. Ashdown Forest is an area of outstanding natural beauty and provides space to stop and breathe. We have almost two acres of woodland and gardens at our own purpose built learning centre. This allows us to make full use of all the metaphors of nature that surround us coupled with a friendly and professional set up.


Finally if you are a fan of Winnie the Pooh you might just see him with his friends as Ashdown Forest is the inspiration for A.A. Milne’s wonderful books.


This is an important investment in your future, it is worth making sure you make the right choice. If you would like further advice do contact Melody to arrange a free Exploration phone call.


How Breathing boosts your Well-being in more ways than you might realise

You may already know that breathing “properly” is good for your well-being but do you know exactly how it helps? Knowing how breathing boosts your well-being can provide you with the motivation to add this simple practice to your daily self-care.


Breathing through your nose promotes improved brain function, memory, cognition and the processing of emotions. It also gives your heart and lungs a good work out relaxing blood vessels and allowing more oxygen into your system.


Breathing slowly, (six breaths per minute) stimulates the vagus nerve calming your entire nervous system and can lead to an altered state of consciousness. All of this helps to improve your well-being.


Are you remembering to breathe through your nose?


Top tip for today, set a reminder several times a day to stop and check your breathing. By consciously breathing through your nose of a minute or two at a time you will notice the benefits very quickly.

Use breathing as part of your regular self-care practice.

If you are ready to make some serious improvements in your Well-being I have two courses scheduled for March that will really help you.

The first is the Wholeness Work: A Beginning on 5th to 6th March. This workshop will provide you with a daily practice to improve your Well-being and increase your sense of peace and connection to your true self.

The second workshop is Core Transformations on 11th to 13th March. This workshop helps you to integrate those parts of yourself that have been holding you back including issues such as Imposter Syndrome.

If you would like to arrange a free exploration call to find out the best option for you contact me direct