Our one day NLP 101 is an opportunity for you to find out if NLP is for you. It also counts as 25% credit toward your NLP Diploma!
Our intention is to provide you with an opportunity to find out two important factors:
Is NLP for you?
Here is how NLP helped one of our recent students:
“I joined the NLP training just over a year ago. In that year I have completely transformed into a different person. From someone who suffered with regular anxiety and disbelief in my self, my self worth was at rock bottom and I really didn’t know how to move on.”
Are we the right providers for you?
By experiencing our style of training and approach we hope you will be inspired to sign up for the rest of the NLP Diploma and the complete NLP Practitioner.
Here is a recommendation from one of our recent students
“I would recommend the NLP training for anyone, not only have I learnt how to change my life so much for the better, I also made a great new friendship circle where we all share the positive changes. NLP training is actually really simple to adapt into your or anyone else’s life.”
If you would like to see and hear from some of our students click the link.
How does it work?
First you register your place on the NLP Taster Day and provided you register for the Diploma within 7 days of completing the NLP 101 we will give you a special rate of just £395 for the remaining three days of the NLP Diploma. We charge a small fee of £24.95 when you attend our NLP101 so you can dip your toes in the water.
To reserve your place on our NLP101 on 9th August click the button below.
Alternate dates are also available:
The next NLP Diploma is scheduled for 3rd to 6th September 2019. For alternate dates contact me direct.
The full Diploma is also module one of our fully accredited NLP Practitioner.
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On completion of your Diploma you are then ready to complete our NLP Practitioner which is a further three modules of four days each.
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The dates for the full programme are:
Module one: (NLP Diploma) 3rd to 6th September 2019
This course has many benefits both obvious and less obvious:
On the obvious level you gain several qualifications that can help you expand your own business.
Less obvious perhaps, you will gain greater understanding and elegance in your use of NLP in whatever arena you use it in.
You will experience personal development and growth.
You will turn up the charisma and confidence on any presentations or training courses you deliver.
You will meet a great group of people and have a lot of fun along the way.
We asked some of our graduates why they had wanted to do NLP Trainer’s Training. Here are some of their reasons:
To have (or develop) the confidence to present and be a presenter
To overcome any fears they had about presenting/being on stage/being centre of attention or being looked at
To be more confident at work (e.g. speaking up in meetings, volunteering to present to senior managers)
To learn ‘platform skills’ – to become a ‘world class’ trainer/speaker
To be a more credible trainer/presenter
To become a better coach and to give feedback more elegantly
To have some fun!
To be a more engaging speaker
To challenge, develop and stretch themselves
To learn more NLP tools and techniques
To apply NLP to being a presenter/trainer
To complete the trilogy of official NLP courses (they saw Trainer’s Training as part 3 of a series that began with Practitioner and Master Practitioner as parts 1 & 2)
To run NLP courses & to develop their business
To test their skills and knowledge of NLP
To one day become a Master Trainer of NLP!
Need a bit more before you decide?
Who are the Trainers?
Our training is led by three NLP Master Trainers of good standing. Master Trainers are expected to be able to demonstrate clear lineage and have met or exceeded a minimum criteria of achievements. Not all Master Trainers meet this standard so you are advised to check with professional bodies such as ANLP.
Julie Silverthorn (USA) became a Master Trainer in 1992 while working with Tad James and Wyatt Woodsmall. Her track record is sterling, her approach warm and caring and her elegance in the use of Milton language is magnificent.
Melody and Joe Cheal (UK) trained with two schools of NLP through to Trainer level before being granted NLP Master Trainer status by Julie Silverthorn and John Overdurf. Both Melody and Joe have been teaching NLP and corporate courses for over twenty years.
Joe has a passion for understanding patterns and systems, and delivers training with humour and energy.
Melody is inspired to help individuals reach their full potential.
All three of our Master Trainers have undergraduate and Master’s Degrees in Psychology bringing an even greater level of knowledge and experience to the programme. Together, they are the co-founders of the Positive School of Intrinsic NLP.
We very much hope that you will join us for the next step in your NLP journey.
The course is 13 to 24 July 2018 and the certification dates are 25 to 27 July 2018 and will be at our beautiful purpose built venue overlooking Ashdown Forest in East Sussex.
IS this YOUR year to FLY? TO FLY higher than YOU’VE ever flown before? To allow your CONFIDENCE, KNOWLEDGE and PERSONAL CHARISMA to soar to new levels of CONGRUENCE? Are you ready to move UP IN YOUR CAREER, YOUR RELATIONSHIPS and YOUR ABILITY to ASSIST OTHERS TO TRULY TRANSFORM THEIR LIVES? ARE YOU READY NOW…..? TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP AND COMMITT TO YOUR OWN PERSONAL GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT?
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This week my focus is on relationships and self-care. In my private practice I often work with clients who are experiencing issues in their romantic relationships.
The Relationship Dance
In our book of the same title, Joe and I talk about the Relationship Dance and how there is a flow in a relationship. There are healthy relationships and relationships that are toxic and everything in between. Whatever type of relationship you may be in there is a dance and you co-create your experience with your partner.
If you are currently in relationship, how is it going for you? Do you
feel supported, valued and respected as well as loved? Are you supportive, do you value and respect your partner?
If you answered “no” to any of the above it is worth taking a moment to reflect on your pattern in relationships. Is there an abusive edge to your experience or are you just experiencing dissatisfaction?
People who find themselves in abusive relationships or who themselves are abusive are unlikely to practice positive self-care. This is also true where there is a level of dissatisfaction.
Take a moment to reflect, do you value yourself? Do you respect yourself? Do you ensure you have a supportive environment? Although sometimes cliched, do you love yourself.
If you answer “no” to this set of questions consider this.
If you don’t love, respect and value yourself how can you expect anyone else to?
Often the most important place to start in transforming relationships with others is the relationship with yourself. You may find that if you make friends with yourself your relationship with your partner will start to improve.
This is not a guarantee and you might find that at the point where you are respecting and valuing yourself you might choose to end your relationship.
Once you have a healthy relationship with yourself you will discover you have more effective ways of communicating with your partner. You will be more willing to appreciate and value them and at the same time be more able to speak your truth and maintain boundaries.
I will expand more on this topic over the next few weeks.
If you are ready to start your own self-care journey and have not yet training in NLP now might be the time to sign up for the NLP101 Taster Day on 18thJune or 9thAugust.
Last week Joe and I were at the NLP Conference in London and so this week I am breaking from my series on Self-care to share our experiences with you.
Judith Delozier and Judith Lowe presented the Maser Class, Passion in Action
The Conference takes place over three days. The first day is always a Master Class from leading NLP Trainers from around the world. This year was no exception. The speakers were Judith Delozier and Judith Lowe and the topic was “Passion in Action”.
Melody and Joe presenting again at the NLP Conference
Day two and three of the Conference consist of six streams of parallel sessions on a range of topics. This year Joe and I had separate sessions.
My session was first thing on Saturday morning and my topic was
Core Transformations. One of the reasons I ran this session was as an introduction to the work of Connirae Andreas. Connirae will be delivering the Master Class on The Wholeness Work in 2020.
I am excited to announce that we (GWiz NLP) will be hosting a further three days training with Connirae the weekend after the Conference (more details to follow).
Joe also ran a session on Saturday entitles The Language of Unconscious Bias. If any of you would like a copy of his notes contact me direct and I will forward them to you as a pdf.
Our Saturday was very busy with Joe and I chairing the annual meeting of the NLP Leadership Summit. This group is made of up NLP Leaders from around the world united in a vision to “change the future and pull the field of NLP together”.
What happened at the NLP Awards
Saturday evening was all about the NLP Awards. Joe was the MC for the third year in a row. He was planning to stand down but had so much fun he as agreed to MC next year as well.
Judith Delozier was presented with the Life Time Achievement Awards which was richly deserved. The Award was presented by two other NLP leaders, Robert Dilts and Stephen Gilligan.
I was short listed for the NLP Research Award and was a runner up. The winner was Lucas Derks, whose work on Social Panorama and other allied projects made him a very worthy winner.
Socialising and having fun at the NLP Conference
One of the other aspects of the NLP Conference that Joe and I love is the wonderful social element. Our GWiz NLP Stand became a meeting place and was our base.
We met with many friends from around the world and also made some new connections. It was lovely to see so many people attending the Conference who either began their NLP journey with us or attended a course a long the way.
Thank you to Karen Falconer, Kash Falconer and their team for organising yet another brilliant Conference.
This week someone asked me to explain the benefits of NLP to them and I realised this is something I’ve not written about recently. It made sense to me to give you a little background into my personal angle on this.
Several years ago I studied for an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology and for my dissertation I decided to research the benefits of NLP. In my study I was interested to find out if there was any evidence to support my hypotheses, paraphrased here as:
“NLP can be used to improve self-esteem and well-being”
As part of my study Joe and I facilitated a one day workshop with over sixty participants and a dozen of our NLP Master Practitioner Graduates assisting with the group work. During the day Joe and I taught some principles of NLP and guided the group through three NLP change work processes.
I collected data from already existing psychology questionnaires that measured self-esteemand well-being. The measures were taken before the workshop, at the end of the day and six weeks later. There was also another group of a similar size who did not take part in the workshop who acted as a control group. I measured their self-esteem and well-being during the same time frame (they got to do the workshop after the study had been completed).
The results were very pleasing demonstrating statistically significant evidence that NLP does improve self-esteem and well-being. I was not really surprised as I have been using these techniques myself in self-care, in my private practice with clients and teaching to my students for years. Time and time again I see people having excellent results.
When I work with people in my private practice I often encourage them to consider taking NLP Practitioner training as part of their journey. By taking the training my clients are learning how to self-coach when issues come up, they often experience a transformation in their mindset and report feeling greater control in their lives.
Here is a comment from a recent student about a particular technique and NLP in general:
“In all the years of therapy etc I’ve never noticed a shift like this, so it’s a fantastic technique and I really want to be able to use this and my NLP skills to be able to help others who have been through similar experiences to me. Just wanted to share that with you and thank you for all your help.”
If you want to find out more about my research you will find lots of information on the website including my full dissertation and the journal article published later. I also have a free audio download recorded at the research workshop that includes two of the processes covered. Here is the link:
As I may mentioned in an earlier blog I have reached the short list for the Research Award at the NLP Awardsin May. This event is being hosted at the NLP Conferencewhere we will also have a trade stand.
For those of you ready to start your NLP journey you can join us for our NLP Taster Day: NLP101. We have a token charge of just £24.95 for the day which is also day one of the fully ANLP Accredited Practitioner.
For full details of our next NLP Practitioner Training or to book onto a taster day contact me direct via Contact Us.
Does it hold you back and prevent you from enjoying life fully or maybe stop you trying new things?
Transforming your inner Critic using NLP
A couple of weeks ago I first wrote about your inner critic and how it can sometimes undermine your self-care. This week I am going to share with you some tips that will enable you to make some changes that will really help you transform that voice.
So, firstly a re-cap, your inner critic is a partof you that is trying to help you. It’s job is likely about wanting to keep you safe or help you avoid something such as embarrassment or rejection. It has a positive intention and this intention may be out of date.
The suggestions I am about to make will reduce the power of the voice or change it in a way that makes it easier to feel okay about.
You may still need to do some more formal inner work if the inner critic is connected to unresolved issues. If this is the case the changes I am about to suggest may only last for a short time or not at all.
When you clear the underlying issue the inner critic will either naturally transform or will be open to the changes below.
Here are the tips.
Thank your inner critic for it’s input, help and advice.
Listen to the words and evaluate, is there genuinely something to pay attention to here or are the words just a sign of anxiety.
Experiment with changing your inner critic’s tone. It is your brain, your inner voice so this is easy to do. See what happens if you change the voice into something you can no longer take seriously. For example make it sound like Micky Mouse or Scooby Do. Alternatively soften the tone, make it sound like a kindly advisor delivering the advice in a soft, non-judgemental way.
Notice the location of your inner critic, what happens if you switch the location? Sometimes this on its own makes a big difference. For example, if your inner critic sounds like it is on the right, near the back of your head move it to the left and further forward. Sometimes you may need to do this change before step 3.
These small tips have made a difference to many of my clients however if you try them and they do not work for you I suggest you seek out an experienced NLP Practitioner who can help you using one of the following techniques, parts work, six step reframe, re-imprint, Core Transformation or the Wholeness Process.
Where possible choose someone who was recommended to you by someone you know and trust. You can also check to see if the person is a member of ANLP our NLP Professional body and also ask what level of training they have.
Please be aware that NLP Training does vary with some people attending very short courses. Be wary of working with anyone who has only had online training.
What if instead of giving up you were giving yourself better self-care instead?
I know promised you some more tips on managing your inner critic and I hope you will forgive me for putting it off for one more week. I have a good reason.
I was reflecting on all the people who were posting about “giving things up for Lent”. I am not religious however I do consider myself Spiritual and I wondered about harnessing this idea for self-care.
I made a decision to explore what it feels like to embrace 40 days of reflection and sacrifice. The word sacrifice felt harsh to me so I reframed this as self-compassion with the idea that it will increase my ability to have compassion for others.
I will be giving something up as part of that process. I have decided to give up sugary sweets, biscuits and chocolate plus alcohol which I currently only take occasionally.
I suspect my need for sugar is really an indicator of some unresolved issues, some of which are outside my awareness.
From an NLP perspective, I hold the view that my unhealthy drives around sugar do have a positive intention. They are likely trying to help or protect me in some way.
I have some ideas as to what that might be and there may be some I have yet to consider. It is also possible that the positive intention is now out of date and the part of me that is running the drive did not realise.
I plan to replace sugar with self-care and self-compassion.
The phrase “giving something up”can be a block to lasting change so I am reframed this too. Instead of giving something up I will notice what emerges from my change in behaviour and take steps clear what needs clearing, acknowledge what needs acknowledging and release what needs releasing.
I am using a number of approaches including NLP, The Wholeness Process, Core Transformations and Journalling.
Having begun this journey it then occurred to me that a shared journey can be a very supportive thing so I set up a group on Facebook in order to invite others to join me.
I extend this invitation to you now. Would you like to join me on this journey of self-care and self-compassion?
Below is my original post. The name of the group is “Self-care for 40 days and beyond”and you are welcome to ask to join the group. I will be continuing to write my blogs on self-care here and you can post comments about your own journey or questions here on this blog.
“I do not follow any form of organised religion however I do consider myself Spiritual. I believe in a connection between us all and that we have the ability to share compassion.
I have been considering the Christian tradition of Lent. I have made a decision to explore what it feels like to embrace 40 days of reflection and sacrifice. The word sacrifice feels harsh to me so I plan to reframe this as self-compassion with the idea that it will increase my ability to have compassion for others.
I will be giving something up as part of that process. I have decided to give up sugary sweets, biscuits and chocolate plus alcohol which I currently only take occasionally. I suspect my need for sugar is really an indicator of some unresolved issues, some of which are outside my awareness. I plan to replace sugar with self-care and self-compassion. I will notice what emerges and take steps clear what needs clearing, acknowledge what needs acknowledging and release what needs releasing.
I will need love and support so if you feel moved to, please comment on my daily posts.
If you wish to join me on your own journey of self-discovery please do leave me comments in what I plan to make a daily sharing for the next 40 days.
Please feel free to share this post if you think it will help others.”
How can you manage your inner critic with self-care?
Last week I began sharing with you my thoughts about how you (and probably everyone else) has an inner critic. Before moving forward I would like to remind you that you will also have an inner champion, are you listening to that part of yourself too?
Both of these internalised inner voices are parts of you that have taken on a role. Both were developed unconsciously during your developmental phase and both emerged for a good reason.
As a side note, the type of inner voice I am commenting on is part of healthy normal development. There are people who have issues with internalised voices as a mental health issue. If you have any voices urging self-harm or violent behaviour please seek support and help from an appropriate qualified professional.
The focus today is on managing the inner critic. Last week I gave you some tips about acknowledging and evaluating the messages from the inner critic.
If your inner critic is particularly loud write down the script. By writing it down you will be able to get some distance and perspective.
Now write down what you think the positive intention is behind the script.
Definition: Positive intention is a term used in NLP to mean the motivation behind a thought, feeling or behaviour. The presupposition in NLP is that your unconscious is responsible for your patterns of thinking and behaving.
Your unconscious has a positive drive and is trying to protect you the best it can. Sometimes it has not enough or faulty information and so develops patterns that appear negative. Here is an example that illustrates what I mean.
An adult has a tendency to want to please others and say “yes” when they would really rather say “no”.
This pattern could have emerged for a variety of reasons, one could be that in childhood this person experienced disapproval from parental figures for saying “no”. Using child logic they developed a belief that the only way to be loved and approved of was to please others. This belief is held unconsciously and yet runs the adult’s responses.
Whenever this adult considers saying “no” to others or pleasing themselves the inner critic replays a version of those early messages. You may or may not consciously hear them however the emotions created are felt.
If this person continues to say “no” or please themselves their inner critic will continue commenting perhaps triggering feelings of guilt and low self-worth.
If the person suppresses their desire to say “no” or please themselves they may get a sense of relief coupled with other feelings such as low self-worth and unhappiness.
This has created a double bind, damned if you do damned if you don’t. Is this feeling familiar?
Now to return to my suggestion of writing down the script of the inner critic, as you review your own scripts consider “who was the author?”
The chances are the author will have been parental figures who in most cases had good intentions. By writing down your script you may gain some new insights that allow you to make changes.
Insights can be very powerful however sometimes insights are not enough. Have you ever had the experience of understanding something logically but hanging on to it emotionally?
This is a really common experience and this is where NLP can help you. There are many techniques in NLP that can help you re-write your script and become the author of your own life.
Here is a link to a free download which includes a technique called “Changing Beliefs”. The recording is taken from a workshop delivered as part of my NLP Research Dissertation into NLP as a way of improving Self-esteem and Well-being.
Next week I will share some ways of changing the sub-modalities of your inner critic to reduce the impact and perhaps transform your experience.
I am pleased to share with you that I have been nominated for the Research Award at the NLP Awards in London this May.
Checking how you care for yourself psychologically…
This week I will offer one final audit for you to carry out, psychological self-care. So what do you mean when you say “psychological self-care”?
That’s a great question, I’m glad you asked. From my perspective this is about your internal representations and that means how you store information. This will be in the form of thoughts, images, sounds, sensations, emotions and even taste and smell. These in turn will create patterns of thought, responding and behaviour.
So here is this week’s audit.
How are you talking to yourself? Are you kind? Are you critical?
When you check your internal image of yourself, how do you see yourself?
How do you respond to compliments?
How do your respond to critical feedback?
What are you believing about yourself that is limiting you in some way? What are you believing about yourself that empowers you in some way?
What are you believing about others that creates challenges? What are you believing about others that creates connection?
What are your patterns in significant relationships?
What is your relationship to confidence?
What is your sense of self? Do you value yourself? Do recognise your worth?
Where in your life are you unfulfilled (if anywhere) and how are your thoughts connected to that?
As with the previous audits, consider what questions I’ve left out.
What else is important to you?
You might want to consider an audit for your self-care in regards to Spirituality, in relationships or behaviourally. I’ll leave you to reflect on those for yourself and next week we will begin exploring strategies for self-care.
Have you ever noticed how you hold yourself back from certain things? Sometimes these will be tasks or activities you know logically that you are capable of and yet there is another part of you that is convinced you will never succeed.
Perhaps even more challenging are those personal things you think about yourself as a person that on one level you know they are not true and yet emotionally you hold a conviction that they are fact.
The above are just two examples of limiting beliefs. Often we do not label them as beliefs because we think they are “concrete facts”.
We will defend these limitations, arguing that we have evidence to support these “truths”. On a more positive level we will do the same thing about empowering beliefs we hold about ourselves, others and the world.
Usually it is far easier to spot when someone else is clinging to a limiting belief. We will hear them make a statement about themselves or their abilities that we, the observer, would challenge. We are often able to present counter evidenceand yet the other person is unable to accept even the most well intentioned, gentle and kind feedback.
So, if you want to identify some of your own limiting beliefs, stop for a moment and consider, where in your life have others tried to offer you counter evidence about self-stated truths about you?
There are other ways to track down your limiting beliefs and sometimes we need the help of a skilled professional.
If you want to understand a little bit more about how limiting beliefs are created download my free audio click here.
This audio is a two hour segment from a workshop I ran with 60 people research “Does NLP improve Self-Esteem?” This was part of my research dissertation for my Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology and you will be pleased to know the evidence was “yes it does”.
You will also be able to join in with an exercise from NLP that is designed to help you shift that limiting belief and swap it for an Empowering Self Belief that will allow you to shine.
If you are ready to transform your life it might be time to enrol on our NLP PractitionerProgramme and start your own journey of change. Our programme is spread over 4 modules each of 4 days giving you time consolidate both your learning and your transformation.
If you are still not quite sure you can join us for a taster day for just £19.95. This fee covers the costs and is deducted from your invoice when you sign up for either the NLP Diploma or the full NLP Practitioner Training.
Our next one is on 21stJune and there is an alternate date of 21stAugust. Do join us and start making those important changes today!
I am also available for individual sessions using NLP, Hypnotherapy, Core Transformations, the Wholeness Process, Positive Psychology and Transactional Analysis.
Contact me direct for more details at firstname.lastname@example.org