Tag Archives: psychological self-care

Do you ever experience unconscious self-sabotage?

You have all the wisdom you need deep inside, stop and listen.

In an earlier blog I told you I had started a 40 day self-care challenge for myself. The challenge was to cut out sugary foods such as chocolate, biscuits and cake. I also cut out alcohol.

 

My motivation was for general health benefits including weight loss and reducing inflammation.

 

On the surface I have been successful in this challenge. I have found it easy to avoid the foods I chose to cut out. However I noticed something strange. I have gained about four pounds in weight.

 

At first this didn’t make sense. Then I reflected on how my eating habits have changed over the last few weeks.

 

I have cut out the specific sources of sugar but then quite unconsciously I have increased my carbohydrate intake. You probably already know that in the body carbohydrates are broken down into sugar.

 

How had this happened?

 

I have a theory, based on my training and experience. I believe that food issues are rarely just about food. In some way sugar has a place in my psychological and emotional strategies. This form of unconscious sabotage needs to be viewed as useful data. It provides us with information that will ultimately help us.

 

My suspicion is that this is rooted in some personal work that I have already cleared and that this experience is an indicator that there is some more to do. I am also aware of some stress in my life right now that may also be having an impact.

 

I have decided to use some specific tools that I find really useful as a way of exploring and clearing what this change in eating has triggered.

 

I am going to use two techniques developed by Connirae Andreas, the Core Transformation Process and Wholeness Work. I’ll let you know how I get on later in this series.

 

For me listening to your body in this way is another way of practicing self-care. Listen to your body, listen to your responses and notice what you learn.

 

Do let me know what discoveries you make about yourself as you deepen your self-care practice.

How well do you understand yourself?

Helping yourself
Self-care is all about looking after yourself. You can’t help someone else if you are running on empty

Emotional intelligence is not just about understanding others.

Last week I invited you to take an audit of your how well you are applying self-care to yourself physically. I wonder how you got on and if you have already made some adjustments based on your own reflections.

Later in the series I will come back to each of the points we audited last time with some ideas on how to look after yourself even better on the physical level.

Before we do that let us continue with the audit, this time the focus is on Emotional Self-care. Here are the next set of questions:

  1. Do you recognise your own emotions when you are experiencing them?
  2. Do you know the difference between here and now emotions and historically conditioned emotions?
  3. Are you associated or disassociated when you experience emotions?
  4. Does it vary depending on which emotion it is?
  5. Are there some emotions you believe are not okay?
  6. Are you aware of specific triggers for specific emotional responses?
  7. Do you ever feel out of control with your emotions?
  8. Do you ever feel remote and disconnected from your emotions?
  9. Are you aware of how personality difference might impact on emotions?
  10. Do you have strategies for managing your own emotions?

What questions have I missed out? Let me know what else is important to you for emotional self-care.

Next week the audit will be for Psychological Self-care.