Have you ever found yourself questioning life in this way?
I was at this point in my life when I was twenty-nine years old. I was depressed, in an abusive marriage and in a job where I was not valued. It was a crisis point for me and I was looking for something to make a difference, to give me purpose and joy.
Feeling that there must be more to life than this was what motivated me to begin my personal development journey. When I look back I recognise that I thought I was worthless and my self-esteem was rock bottom. I didn’t trust others and felt isolated and unloved.
A friend recommended a workshop that used visualisation and discussion about perceptions and patterns. My friend has attended this training themselves and thought I would find it helpful.
It felt like a risk but I decided to do it anyway.
It was an eye opener for me and I experienced a paradigm shift in my thinking. This is what happens when you experience a sudden shift in perception. I suddenly knew at a deep level that I did have value and worth as a human being. Perhaps just as importantly I also recognised the worth and value in others. I believe this is key for healthy self-esteem.
This experience led to me spending two years focusing on my personal development. During that time I left the abusive marriage, I took redundancy and signed up for a University degree in Psychology.
A year into my journey I met Joe and in him found a true life partner. We have now been married for twenty-five years and have worked together happily (in all senses) throughout that time.
Everything changed and at the time I didn’t fully appreciate what had changed.
On reflection I now realise that I had lived the first twenty-nine years of my life with a fixed mindset. That first workshop allowed me to shift to a growth mindset and reappraise my core beliefs about myself and others.
There is more to life and I discovered my purpose. I earn my living helping other people make these changes. I get to feel like I am making a significant difference in the lives of others and this is so rewarding.
I also get to feel that I have a value and that I don’t have to do anything to earn that. Just as I recognise you have value simply by existing I recognised the same about myself.
Do you need to make changes in your life? Do you know how? Do you have the support you need in order to be successful? Happy? Fulfilled?
If you would like to have a chat with me about how I can help you make the changes you need contact me by message or email to arrange a time for a phone call.
There is more to life and it is time for you to find meaning and purpose in your life. Take the risk, reach out today.
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