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Emotional intelligence is not just about understanding others. How well do you understand yourself?

Helping yourself
Self-care is all about looking after yourself. You can’t help someone else if you are running on empty

Last week I invited you to take an audit of your how well you are applying self-care to yourself physically. I wonder how you got on and if you have already made some adjustments based on your own reflections.

Later in the series I will come back to each of the points we audited last time with some ideas on how to look after yourself even better on the physical level.

Before we do that let us continue with the audit, this time the focus is on Emotional Self-care. Here are the next set of questions:

  1. Do you recognise your own emotions when you are experiencing them?
  2. Do you know the difference between here and now emotions and historically conditioned emotions?
  3. Are you associated or disassociated when you experience emotions?
  4. Does it vary depending on which emotion it is?
  5. Are there some emotions you believe are not okay?
  6. Are you aware of specific triggers for specific emotional responses?
  7. Do you ever feel out of control with your emotions?
  8. Do you ever feel remote and disconnected from your emotions?
  9. Are you aware of how personality difference might impact on emotions?
  10. Do you have strategies for managing your own emotions?

What questions have I missed out? Let me know what else is important to you for emotional self-care.

Next week the audit will be for Psychological Self-care.

Auditing your self-care journey. How are you doing?

Last week I began my new series focusing on self-care with an overview and introduction. This week about self-assessment and I recommend you take a few minutes over the next few days to complete this short self-audit.

In order to get the most out of this series you might want to begin a self-care journal to record your answers, thoughts, feelings and actions.

Here are your questions on self-care questions for Physical self-care.

  1. Do you in general terms take care of your body and health?
  2. Do assess situations that might involve physical risk or do you rush in?
  3. Do you get enough sleep? If not, is there a reason?
  4. Do you eat healthily? Do you know what healthy eating is?
  5. Are you over-weight, under-weight or within healthy guidelines for weight?
  6. Do you take the recommended levels of exercise? Do you know what recommended levels are? Do you do too much, not enough or at a healthy balance for exercise?
  7. Do you get regular health checks such as dentist, opticians etc? Do you get a regular general check up?
  8. Do you pay attention to your body and listen to feedback from your body?
  9. Do you take time to relax? For example do you meditate, use self-hypnosis, listen to music, walk in nature?
  10. Do you dance? Do you play? Do you laugh?
Find health in nature

What questions have I missed out? Let me know what else is important to you for physical self-care.

Next week the audit will be for Emotional Self-care.

 

Do you know what self-care is? How well are you nurturing yourself?

Self-care
Find your authentic self by stepping outside your comfort zone as part of your self-care practice

This week I would like to start a new series of discussions on self-care beginning with an introduction. Over the next few weeks I will expand on this theme.

What is self-care?

My definition of self-care is the operationalisation of healthy self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem is where you recognise your own value and worth as a human being and crucially also recognise the value and worth of others.

When you recognise your own worth and value you look after yourself on all levels, physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. You ensure that you remain healthy in relationships including intimate, family, friends, colleagues and even with chance encounters.

I will share my thoughts and include some ideas about how to develop your personal practice of self-care more fully. I welcome interaction and discussion so will be setting up a forum for discussion (more details coming soon).

Self-disclaimer: I am a work in progress myself. Most of us are, no matter how much personal development you have. When I self-assess I estimate that 90% of time I am in a healthy place particularly however there are some areas still requiring some attention.

I will be using this series myself to continue my journey.

Will you join me?

Next week we will begin the journey with some self-assessment and a place to start making changes.

Welcome to the Well-Being Club!

Well-being is a rather hot topic at the moment. I wonder how are you doing with your own self-care?

Take a moment to consider, how do you want to BE?

You know what it is like when you are so busy doing that you forget what it is to be. 

What if you were to take the time to write down in a journal how you want to be in the world in terms of what emotions you want to experience regularly, who you want to feel connected to and what has the most meaning in your life.

Would you change what you focus on?

My challenge to you is to take some time today to just sit with this idea. Write down your thoughts, feelings and dreams or vision.

How close are you to being the way you want to be?

What is stopping you?

Write this down too. Next time I will share some thoughts with you about how to make some changes if that is what you want to do.

If you would also like to read my blog on resilience please click here